In a couple of months, I'm going to graduate, and since my grades are pretty good so far, I'm already facing pressure to get a higher degree. Once again, my convictions about the feminine role and my desire to be family-focused are clashing with my respect for my mother and wanting to show I trust and obey her.
Of course, the reason why I object is not so much about the degree itself, but more about what would come along with it, such as:
* The more I invest in professional studies, the more I will be expected to invest in a career later on. And even if I remain a single woman for the rest of my life, I don't think a competitive, all-consuming career would be the right path.
* Since I do think there's a good chance I will get married, it's important for me to show potential suitors I'm home-focused. How will it ever happen if they see me constantly working for professional improvement? I will not attract men who wish for their wife to be a keeper-at-home.
* The more I study, and the more successful I am in my studies and career, the more of a 'waste' it will be considered if I do leave it all to be a keeper-at-home later on. It will mean more pressure and more difficulties.
* After spending the past 3 years in college, I know what a dangerous and negative influence it can be on a young woman. Immoral lifestyle, ungodly teachings, ambition-saturated environment – who promises me it will not boggle my mind and lead me astray if I stay there for another couple of years?
Finally, I fail to see how doing research on rats or a cell culture, writing papers, doing laboratory work and in the end obtaining another diploma and a few letters after my name will help me advance in my God-given role: being a feminine woman, a homemaker, a wife and mother (as I hope that is what He has in plan for me). It will not make me more intelligent; it will not help me teach my children. So why should I invest time and money and risk what I believe in?
So… I'll be waiting to hear your feedback. What do you think a young lady should do when she faces pressure to get a high-paying career, be 'independent' and compete with men – not only from the outside world, but also from her family?