We can all do something to prevent the killing of innocent unborn children, today, right now. Even if we are too busy to participate actively in the pro-life movement, we can still do a lot in our daily lives and make an enormous difference.
Like in everything else, I believe prayer comes first here too. We can pray for defenseless unborn children, for mothers who are facing difficult situations; we can pray for a change of heart for fathers who decided to abandon their children or pressure their wives or girlfriends to have abortions.
The next thing to work on is our own attitude. Believe me, it matters! Our thoughts, our words, the message we're conveying, it all creates a snowball effect. So let's ask ourselves the following questions:
- How do we treat children? Do we love children? Do we embrace each child as a wonderful, unique gift from God? Or do we treat them as hindrances, as burdens instead of blessings? Do we ever say things like, 'I can't wait for the moment when I can send them off to school', or 'I used to have so much more freedom in my life before I had children', or 'now that this couple has children, they will never be able to afford a new car or a real vacation'? Remember, every negative comment we make about children has a lingering impact!
- What about children with special needs and/or various disabilities? Do we treat them as they should be treated – individuals who need even more care, attention and love? Or do we imply they have no worth and it would have been better for them not to be born? One of my teachers in highschool had a son who suffered from autism. Last year, the boy unfortunately died from cancer. Many of the people who knew this couple weren't embarrassed to say right after this tragic event, that this boy's life wasn't worth much anyway! How cruel is that?! Why don't we say, 'I'm sure this child is such a unique blessing to his family', or 'They must be wonderful people, to be blessed with such a special little soul in their family'?
- Do we ever say 'what an unfortunate time to have a child'? 'I'll bet Mary Sue won't graduate from college now that she has a baby. She will remain uneducated and her life will be ruined!'; 'A baby, when you're only starting your career? You must be crazy!' – do you know how often I hear people saying something like this? Do you realize the effect this might have on a woman or family who are passing through temporary difficulties? We should say something different. How about: 'Yes, the Joneses have debt to pay right now, but it will be done with in a couple of years. A child is a blessing for a lifetime!'
- And how do we treat unmarried mothers? Our convictions about sex outside marriage and the attitude we express towards unmarried mothers should not parallel each other. I firmly believe sex is a beautiful gift, to be saved for marriage alone. But it doesn't mean we should turn our backs on unmarried mothers. These women might have made a mistake, but they are courageously standing up and facing the consequences of their actions! Their children are also blessings, to be valued and cherished like any other child. Your negative remarks, saying 'there's no way she can raise this baby on her own', a holier-than-thou attitude, refusing to extend your fellowship to a woman in trouble – seeing this might just be the last straw, the thing that will give a final push to a desperate single mother to go and have an abortion.
God loves and values each child, why shouldn't we do the same? God blesses us with children when we expect or don't expect it, when it fits into our plans or not. So let's start feeling and expressing boundless, unconditional love for children, mothers, fathers, families today. Let's prevent abortions by creating a snowball effect of love, acceptance, generosity, kindness and faith above all.