Lately, I've received several emails from people who couldn't understand or accept my arguments against feminism. "But how," – they inquire, - "how a bright young girl, who was obviously given so many options by feminism, can so totally and wholeheartedly reject it?"
Let me share with you my perspective on how different my life could have been if it weren't for feminism.
If it weren't for feminism…
… my mother would probably not be unmarried; she would have a husband and wouldn't have to take on a masculine role. I would have a father who would support and protect our family.
… my father would probably not neglect his duty towards my mother and me; he would not ask her to seek an abortion, or 'deal with it' without him; he would assume responsibility for his actions.
… I wouldn't feel marriage and a normal family is something out of this world; I'd view it as natural.
I hope you understand: I'm not blaming feminism for my personal hardships, or saying all of these misfortunes could not have happened without feminism. But I do think feminism is responsible for creating an environment in which a woman is much more prone to become unprotected, exploited, abused, overwhelmed, torn apart and generally unhappy. And yes, I'm accusing feminism of creating an environment in which I, and countless other young women, have grown up in broken homes, with mothers that were never there. Are we supposed to say 'thank you'?
Now, I don't want this to turn into a pity party; after all, I've been blessed in countless ways. And I'm not saying all those things didn't exist before feminism came into the picture, or that I'm certain they wouldn't happen to me. I'm only stating that the incidence of them used to be much lower. They were an exception, not the norm.
And please don't tell me, 'you don't know feminism'. I do. I was educated according to the feminist doctrine throughout my years in public schools and college. Believe me, I know it through and through; I used to support it, I experienced all of its detrimental effects – starting from growing up without a father and ending with being sexually exploited in the name of 'liberation' – and this is precisely why I reject it.
I don't care about pretty slogans that say, 'it's all about choice, that's all'. I observe the life of women since the onset of modern feminism, and I'm very sorry, but when I look at unstable marriages, skyrocketing divorce rates, incredible pressure to earn money and neglect our duties at home (or worse, being told we can, and are supposed to, 'have it all'), infertility (due to waiting too long before having children and/or many years of using the Pill), abortions, immodesty, exploitation, lack of respect, immorality, ungodliness – and I could go on, and on, and on – I just don't see how it's supposed to make us happy?
If it's all about 'choice', then how come those who choose to be focused on the home, are convinced in every way that their choice is inferior? If it's about choice, how come I need to justify and explain my 'lack of ambition', telling I do have ambitions, only in a completely different area – and how come this explanation is never accepted?