Thursday, November 8, 2007

Queen of your castle

I felt I simply must share with you this wonderful story.

Thank you, Green Eyes, for sending the link! It sums up so nicely my own – and many others' – thoughts about homemaking and the role of woman in the home. I would rather be a queen of my own humble castle, than have a large house full of possessions but no warmth, human touch, or the gift of time to dedicate to loved ones.

"Affluenza's victims are stricken with a warped perception of true wealth," the king explained. "Instead of valuing what they have, they want more. They trade their time for things, and then have no time to enjoy the things they've traded for."

Go ahead and read it. It's worth your time!

19 comments:

Terry said...

That was wonderful. Thanks for sharing it.

Green Eyes said...

I'm glad you chose to share this with your readers! It's actually what made me realize I wanted to be a SAHM, when I first read it about 2-3 years ago.

I'm still not a stay-at-home-MOM yet, but maybe someday soon. :)

Sammybunny said...

that is truly beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing this wise tale with us Green Eyes and Anna S.!

Anonymous said...

I would rather be a queen of my own humble castle, than have a large house full of possessions but no warmth, human touch, or the gift of time to dedicate to loved ones.

I don't think that's a fair dichotomy. A two career household has no warmth and no human touch? That doesn't sound like the house I live in, or the houses that my friends live in.

I think as a homemaker you have something of value to contribute to your household and your family. But I don't think that valuing homemaking requires devaluing other types of lifestyles.

-- Pendragon 3

Anonymous said...

A two career household has no warmth and no human touch? That doesn't sound like the house I live in, or the houses that my friends live in.

You have kids Pendragon? What type of work do you do? Are you the wife or the husband in this 2 career family?

I'm still working (albeit at home telecommuting) and my home does lack warmth because I am too stressed about work and all the other things I am expected to do. Maybe if we didn't have kids, I would have more time for warmth, but with the homework, housecleaning, etc, I'm just too tired to be warm and fuzzy. I'm hoping to finally dump working in the next couple months since I'm about to have our second child.

~Erica

Alexandra said...

"I would rather be a queen of my own humble castle, than have a large house full of possessions but no warmth, human touch, or the gift of time to dedicate to loved ones."

Me too! People and family are more important than things.

Kyla said...

I love being queen of my castle!! There is nothing sweeter than when my husband says randomly that he loves our home and he loves being in it.

For the whole two income family debate. We are a two income family and until we have children we enjoy the extra cash to travel, save, learn and improve our cozy little home.I don't think that this makes our home lack warmth or human touch. On the contrary, we entertain weekly and enjoy sharing our blessings with our family and friends. I have said this before but I think that it is all about balance. I don't have a problem having a full time job and spending enough time on my home duties. I am sure that this will change once we have children but for now I have found the perfect balance for my life.

neuropoet3 said...

Lovely story, Anna, thanks for sharing!
~Jenny

Kelly said...

Anna, great link. Thanks for posting it.

I personally don't think this story means that two income/job homes lack warmth or human touch but something is always lost when both parents work. Nothing can replace a stay at home parent who is engaged and actively involved in their children's lives and managing a home to be it's best.

Anna S said...

"I don't think that's a fair dichotomy. A two career household has no warmth and no human touch?"

Pendragon, I agree with you that it mustn't always be a dichotomy; however, in many cases, it *is*. There's a whole lot of rush, stress, disorder and unwelcoming spirit in many of today's homes, because the status of women as guardians of the hearth and home is lost.

Anonymous said...

This was a clever little story..I enjoyed it! while over at The Lightkeeper, I read a few more things, & I think that's one site I'm going to have to check often. Thanks!

Brenda

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LisaM said...

Proverbs 12:4 - "An excellent wife is the crown of her husband" - of course not just a pretty jewel for him to show off; this is from the scriptures after all. She makes him a king.

A house where both parents work is usually empty and void of warmth and human touch at least part of the day. Is that better?

Mandy said...

"I would rather be a queen of my own humble castle, than have a large house full of possessions but no warmth, human touch, or the gift of time to dedicate to loved ones."

I completely agree! Thanks for sharing this story!

Laeyra said...

Ah, affluenza, I am recovering from that. I was raised by a mother who is under its spell. She would tell me things like "You just wouldn't be happy unless you and/or your husband made six figures!" while buying any material thing I could want. At first, I thought it was great that I had all the toys, books, movies, videogames, jewelry and clothes I ever wanted. I was never all that happy, but still I was convinced that next thing I got would do it for me. It sounds so stupid, but when you're in that state of mind, it's hard not to think that way.

Then I moved out on my own and had a couple of years to think about things. I started realizing that buying things was a compulsion, almost an addiction, because I bought things impulsively. I got a brief surge of pleasure after each purchase, to be followed by guilt, which I couldn't understand at all. I could never enjoy my things, either, because I was always restless, seeking out something, anything that would alleviate the emptiness I felt deep within. It was really quite strange, since I kept buying things to entertain me for those occasions, but they never did the trick. My mind quickly moved to the next thing I wanted to buy more than anything else, that new thing I *had* to have. I was working pretty much only to support my buying habit! But I was happy, or I convinced myself I was.

One sleepless night, my thoughts turned inward, to myself, and no amount of music or other entertainment would shut them out. I realized what a wretchedly miserable person I really was, and started thinking about how to change this. I had no self-esteem, you see, being raised with the mindset that your material status and possessions are your worth. In thinking about how to change myself and my life, I opened the door in my mind to start to see God and His presence in the world. I had been an atheist since 14, but I am not any longer.

With God's help, my spending on non-essentials has nearly stopped. The money I wasted before weighs on me heavily at times, but it's a good reminder not to do it again. I still must always be watchful that I don't regress down that path again. Over time, I am sure even my occasional urges for the completely unnecessary will disappear. One thing assures me now when all else fails; I am never alone or unloved.

I am so much happier now that I can say "I don't need that" and I really don't feel that compulsive need to have it. I know I have a long way to go in my walk with the Lord and still more habits to let go of, but I know He will strengthen and guide me, as He always has.

God bless you all, and may you have the eyes to see His blessings.

Mrs Amy said...

What a wonderful story. A couple of years a go I would have scoffed, "Who wants to be a queen at home when you can be out earning money!" Praise God He opened my eyes! I wouldn't change being the Queen at home for ANYTHING!!

tales_from_the_crib said...

it was beautiful, despite not being a fairy tale
:)

Rebekah S. said...

Wow! What a beautiful story! Some people are just so talented! :) Thank you so much for sharing it!

Rebekah S. said...

Laeyra,

I just wanted to say that I loved hearing your testimony about you beiing an atheist for 14 years, and then how the Lord gripped your heart and showed you the truthfulness of His Word! Praise God! Your story really made my day!!