Without claiming to provide all the answers, humbly hoping for just a small grain of truth to be found in my writings, I will continue to discuss a passionate question sent to me by a reader: "How do I find a good man?!"
Here's a point I believe to be very important: DON'T BE AFRAID TO LET OTHERS KNOW THAT YOU DESIRE MARRIAGE. I'm not saying you are supposed to walk around wearing a "Hunting for a Husband" sign. But if you are asked, "so, Jen, are you thinking about marriage yet? Is someone courting you?" I think there's nothing wrong with saying – with a big bright smile – "no, there isn't anyone yet. But I'm open to possibilities of meeting young men. I'm praying and hoping with all my heart to find the right man and be married!"
Please don't confuse it with frustration and discontentment – there's all the difference in the world between good, normal, healthy desire to start your own home and family, and wasting your unmarried years in bitterness and frustration because the right man isn't there yet. By the way, being desperate and anxious is unattractive.
Then again, I know some young women who are so focused on showing how happy and content they are as singles that they actually miss out on opportunities to be introduced to good men who are interested in marriage. Don't make that mistake. Allow the word to spread around that you feel ripe and ready to get married. Who knows, maybe your parents, older relatives, or married friends even have someone in mind for you!
To parents of adult unmarried women, and to other older, married ladies – if you have a young single friend or relative and you can think of a man that might be suitable, I believe that it wouldn't be out of place to take steps towards making an introduction! I know I have readers of many cultures here, and I understand that to some of you, this might sound awfully interfering. But think of how Isaac and Rebecca met. That blessed match happened with a good bit of help!
The bottom line for today: don't be afraid to admit you are interested in marriage and family. Make room for marriage in your life.