Tuesday, March 4, 2008

A lovely idea

Hope chests aren't a Jewish custom, as far as I know, but I must say I simply love this idea of planning, thinking and preparing for your future marriage. A hope chest is a wonderful symbol of that.

If only more parents cared for their young daughters to be marriage-minded from the start, rather than carelessly allow them to get hurt again and again in a series of casual relationships! A hope chest can be such a wonderful source for romantic dreams...

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Yesterday I had another appointment with the seamstress. Now I feel as though I can already see what the final result will look like, and I'm so excited! You won't believe how difficult it is to find a simple, modest and elegant wedding dress. I'm so glad I have the opportunity to custom-make it.

21 comments:

Shannon said...

Hi Anna!
I have a hope chest and found your post very uplifting! You are so right in that many young women are given no course of direction regarding their future in marriage. They are raised and let go to their own devises. It is so sad, but I know that God can change hearts. I am so happy for you to see your wedding plans unveil. Your ring is beautiful and I wish you many blessings!

Sammybunny said...

Yay for Anna and her wedding dress! I am so excited to see the finished beauty.

My parents gave me a hope chest when I was 18 and it was made of cedar wood and it is HUGE! I am not bragging but I want to highlight the love and thought that my parent put into it. They wanted me to have something special that could live with me all of my married life, be functional, and a part of my heritage.

I do not currently keep everything related to my future marriage in there, but I do have quilts from Great-grandmothers, my devotion books from the last eight years, a teddy bear for my future children, and other things that are special to me.

My intention is that when I get engaged, I will clean it out and only put in there what is directly relevant to my future marriage (for tradition's sake) just because I think it will be fun and symbolic of storing up dreams and hopes of being a caring wife.

I think it is a MARVELOUS tradition and I truly hope my daughters will want such a thing if I am blessed with precious ladies to raise.

Blessings!

Heather Tucker said...

Good morning here from the mountains of Virginia in the US! I was given a link to your blog when you did a blog about a young lady who decided to stay home with her children (Sarah, I think?). I am now hooked on following your "adventures". Goodness, I hope you will continue on once you get married!

God bless!
Heather T.

Sheri said...

Oh Anna, I know I probably speak for everyone when I say we are all looking forward to seeing pictures of you in your beautiful wedding gown!

Also, I was blessed to have a hope chest passed down from my grandmother, to my mother, to me. It was filled with many special things by the time I met my beloved and was a lovely way to keep my focus on purity. I plan to do the same for my girls!

Buffy said...

I think the hope chest sounds like a lovely idea. And also it encourages an attitude of investing in the future instead of having everything right now.

Lydia said...

I love hope chests! We're starting one for me, it's exciting.

Speaking of exciting, yay for your dress! :)

PhDCow said...

My parents bought me a beautiful cedar-lined Lane hope chest when I turned 13. We spent the next several years filling it with linens, cookware, and housekeeping books.

After I got married, I emptied it of its contents and replaced it with mementos from my wedding -- my cathedral veil, the bouquet from my bridal shower, and other things. It sits at the foot of our bed.

When our daughter turns 13, I'll let her decide whether she would like to have mine or if she'd like a new one. Either way, I think it's a great tradition to have.

Michelle Potter said...

I am so happy you can have that, too.

Anonymous said...

I've never had a dress custom made for me...what a treat that must be!

And "yes, yes, yes" to the custom of a Hope Chest. I did not have one, per se, but I did save up all kinds of things as a young girl, & then as an unmarried young woman, & still use many of them in my home now. It gives me a good feeling to have that connection with my past. What probably amazes me the most is that my tastes have not changed at all in some things...I still find most of the linens, prints & picture frames, & some of my other decorative items just as appealing today as when I first put them away all those years ago. :o)

Brenda

Mrs. June Fuentes said...

This chest is gorgeous. I have stowed away many things for my daughters chests that I have not purchased yet.There are many great books on preparing a hope chest for daughters, I have one by Rebekah Wilson. Also I wanted to send my congratulations to you on your engagement and soon to be marriage---we are so happy for you!

Many blessings...

A Note From Theresa said...

I like the idea of a hope chest, and when my Daughter gets older she will have one.

Mim & Michael's World! said...

Hi Anna,
I only recently came across your blog site. I have enjoyed readig it so much. In Australia a hope chest is referred to as a 'glory box' and it's quite an old fashioned concept here (Although I love it!). I had one which I filled with any gift I received growing up which would be used for my own house (blankets, cups, cook books etc).
All the best with wedding preparation - sounds like it's all coming along.
Have you ever heard of the magazine "Above Rubies"? It is a Christian magazine full of beautiful letters, stories & encouragement for women to be passionate about home, feminitiy, family etc. I'm sure you would love it as it seems so similar to your ideas. Maybe you could read it online. http://rubies.articledirectoree.com/

Miriam

Mrs. Brigham said...

I simply must tell you once again how excited I am for you, Anna!!! :D You are going to be a gorgeous bride.

Hope chests really are a lovely custom, and one that we are going to be putting into place for Peapod. Right now, both my sister and sister-in-law will hopefully be getting married in the next few years, so I am taking the time to make & collect different little odds and ends for their future homes, and from there, my work will begin for Miss Peapod. Such a delightful little adventure this task is!

Kristy said...

I started my hope chest when I was 13 years old... although it wasn't quite as fancy as the one in your picture! ;o) For my high school graduation, my grandma gave me a lovely antique chest to use... it still sits at the foot of my bed as a reminder of all the hopes that have become reality as I have embraced the roles Wife and Mommy!

~Kristy

Maggie said...

my parents refer to our hope chests as the 'hope-less chest'. their sense of humour is a bit odd at best. Be we were prepared for the real world when we left the nest, be it for marriage or school. Even as young children we always had a gift at christmas or our birthdays that was for the hope chest -- dishes, tools, cookbooks etc...

Hope said...

I've been keeping a Hope Chest for several years now. I've overfilled it and have had to resort to more places than the chest. I think it's a beautiful tradition that symbolizes the need for work and planning in marriage.

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

Bonnie said...

I love the idea of a hope chest, or 'glory box' as I call it. I have one - it is an old army trunk that used to be my grandmas, and fits my things well, although it is starting to get full! I know quite a few girls who have a box, or wooden chest, and we all enjoy chatting about what we're collecting :-)

Haus Frau said...

I did not experience the joy of a hope chest, but for our daughter's 16th birthday we gave her her paternal great grandfather's cedar chest (he crafted it). In it so far, are some linens and a quilt top she made a few years back. More will be going in this summer. :o)

Leigh said...

I bought myself one two years ago and love it. Although I have to say I like the one you pictured better! :) You just reminded me that I need to organize it.

Leigh

Coffee Catholic said...

Hope Chests are so wonderful! I set up a huge one back in America before I moved to Scotland. (minus the chest because I couldn't afford one and everything couln't fit...) I bought all sorts of usefull things for the house that would bring a bit of "Americana" into my Scottish home but now it's going to take me some time to save up the money to get my "Hope Chest" shipped across the ocean!

Anonymous said...

I did not have a hope chest when I was married. My husband and I have been thinking over this very subject. Before we know it, our girls will be old enough to help with the collecting of items! Many time girls these days don't have a hope chest, so we may have one for our son's future wife also. Something to think on.
Aubrey