There is something especially warm and uplifting in the smells, sounds and the general spirit of a home which is lived in during the day. When you come in after a long day outside, the homey scents and the tidiness unmistakably tell you that floors have been mopped, clothes ironed, and a dinner cooked. Maybe there are even some cookies in the oven when you come in, giving off their delicious aroma.
When you come into a home like that, especially if you are tired, you want to stay there. You want to sink into a comfortable armchair and relax, perhaps with a hot cup of tea and some of those cookies you smelled earlier. You will savor the peace and quiet and your spirit will be refreshed.
Sadly, today, more often than not homes are messy and neglected. Is there anything more depressing than returning after a long, hard day at work to piles of dust, stale air, an empty refrigerator and a heap of dirty laundry? This is what most families face every night, being forced to run around and do errands instead of spending time together.
This spirit of neglect does, in turn, its part of pulling people out of their homes. When the atmosphere is so cold and unappealing, you are more likely to leave your home and seek food and entertainment outside – eat out, for example. And while you are out, you are prone to do some window shopping and buy some trinket you don't really need. Spending more money leads to pressure to work more hours, more time spent away from home, and more neglect of home life – a vicious circle that isn't easy to break.
In the past, no one asked a woman – especially a married woman – what she "does". It was assumed and easily accepted that a woman spends a large portion of her time looking after the household - a task that was appreciated and respected. Homemaking skills were taken seriously, as playing an important part in a family's well-being, and were taught from a young age. Family life was home-centered – women worked at home, children were mostly educated at home, husbands loved coming home after work, and the whole family enjoyed gathering for dinner every night and eating a nutritious, home-cooked meal. People entertained themselves at home and enjoyed having friends over for a cup of tea rather than going out.
It is often claimed that modern appliances, such as vacuum cleaners and washing machines, reduced the homemaker's workload to a minimum, so that a woman now can easily balance home life and career. However, the facts of existence in too many modern homes – entire areas that haven't been cleaned in ages, unhealthy and expensive convenience meals of little nutritious value, hastily swallowed by each family member at random times – don't make for a pretty picture. People often forget that in the past, possessions were fewer and life simpler. Modern times added to the responsibilities of a modern homemaker.
Even the most outgoing, company-loving person needs a safe haven to relax in after the daily tasks are completed. The spirit of quiet contentment at home is something many seek unknowingly, trying to complete this void by hopping from one entertainment spot to the next – in vain. Home is irreplaceable. Home is sweet, soothing and comforting. Home, to put it simply, isn't something I would be ready to give up.