Thursday, May 15, 2008

Wedding ring poll

Oh, the thrill! This is the first (and hopefully not last) time I'm able to get online from our new home. Internet connection is somewhat feeble here, so I'm thankful for the automatic draft saving function. Also, for some reason I'm able to post and moderate comments, but I can't view my blog (or other blogger blogs, as a matter of fact) - and therefore I can only hope the new poll I added to my sidebar works and looks well.

If you take a look, you'll see it's a poll that asks how often you wear your wedding ring. My wedding ring is one of my most treasured possessions, and I rarely take it off - only during showers or when I'm doing dishes or washing the floor. During other household tasks, such as grocery shopping, doing laundry, or putting some order around the house, it usually stays on. I even keep it on when I sleep, and so does my husband with his ring. I hope my liking for it will grow even as its newness fades, just as I hope and pray my love for my husband will continue to grow and develop as years pass.

So, how often do you wear your wedding ring? Do you always keep it on? Do you sometimes or always leave it in your bedside drawer? If you want to add to what you stated in the poll, or can't find a suitable answer within the poll's options, I'd love to read your comments.

My husband hurried off to work some time ago, and after walking him to the door I sat down and had breakfast with a leisurely cup of tea, checking emails. Soon I will have to sign off and get going, as the amount of work around here seems to have piled up to something like mount Everest in the days when we have been absent.

I wish you all the most wonderful day (or night - depending on your time zone!); I also wish you all the most beautiful spring/summer (or autumn/winter - again, depending exactly where on the globe you are located). I hope to get my hands on a digital camera soon, to share some more pictures of our gorgeous surroundings. It's getting very hot around here already. Summer has always been my favorite season.

Warmly, your friend,

Mrs. Anna T

57 comments:

Anonymous said...

Dear Anna,
I can't wear my original wedding ring as my hands are now swollen with arthritis, but I now wear a silver band with gold fish around it which my husband bought for me & this is just as important to me. It is also a constant reminder of faith to me & a talking point for others.
Unfortunately my original ring cannot be altered because of it's design. I have tried wearing it on a chain around my neck, but as I detest anything around my neck, it didn't work out.
I love your writing & have read all your archives, it is a privilige to see into your life.

May G-d bless you & keep you.
May the Lord make His Face to shine upon you


Kim
Hereford UK

Jaime said...

I wear mine all the time. The only time I take it off is when I am cooking something particularly messy. (i.e. special cake frosting or lasagna!)

Anonymous said...

I always keep my ring on. Ever since our "I do"s it hasn't come off my finger, not even when I'm repairing the car or diving etc. - its a part of me now, just as my wife.

My wife can't keep hers on always, as she works as a midwife and has to take it off (to wear in a necklace) at work (the hospital).

tales_from_the_crib said...

Take it off for baths and for kneading bread, other than that it's on...and when it's "off" it's usually on a chain around my neck.

Tamsin said...

I wear my (engagement) ring almost all the time.

The exceptions are that I take it off when I wash my hair (it catches on my hair, which is quite long), and swap it to the ring finger on my right hand when playing my bassoon (the keywork scratches my ring)!

God bless,
Tamsin

Anonymous said...

I haven't taken my wedding ring off for years. Because of the size of my knuckle now, I don't think I could if I wanted to. My husband has never removed his ring and was hurt when would remove mine regularly when we were first married. When I would wear it together with my engagement and anniversary rings, I would often get eczema, but haven't had a problem with that since I started only wearing my wedding ring.

I find your blog an inspiring breath of fresh air Anna. You have many keen insights for such a young woman.

With all best wishes to you and your beloved,
Amy-Lynn

Jennifer said...

I have only taken my ring off a couple of times in my 10 years of marriage.

Once, I had broken my left wrist and my hand was swelling - fast! If I hadn't removed it, they would have had to cut it off and I could have had some damage.

And then, when I was pregnant last year, my fingers swelled up and it didn't fit. My husband bought me a titanium band (signifigantly cheaper than my original platinum) to wear while I was pregnant. I called it my "baby band," now he wears it instead of his original white gold band.

Holly said...

I take it off when sleeping or showering and while doing household jobs involving chemicals. I love my wedding ring and I wouldn't want to do anything to damage it.

beth said...

I have a simple gold band which I wear all the time. My engagement ring and wedding ring are for special ocassions. I will probably wear them more when I am in a different season of life--like when my children are older-and then they won't be at risk of getting damaged!

Michelle Potter said...

I'd say I wear my ring all of the time, but the truth is I often have to go for months without it. My fingers swell quite a bit when I am pregnant, and it just doesn't fit. Ironic, since when I originally got my ring it was loose, and I was afraid of losing it! I even had my ring enlarged after my current youngest was born, and I still can't wear it this pregnancy.

I miss my ring terribly when I can't wear it. As I said, I usually wear it all the time, and I usually fiddle with it as a nervous habit, so I really notice when it's not there -- even for months at a time. I also feel very self-conscious, being so very visibly pregnant with no wedding ring. I suppose I could wear another ring, but it just wouldn't be the same to me.

Oh well. This baby is due in July, and then I can have my ring back! :)

Thursday's Child said...

I voted for always, but lately I haven't been. I've got some kind of allergic reaction or something going on now and it gets worse when I wear my rings. So I'm just wearing my wedding ring during the day if I'm going to work or church. For just everyday stuff at home I leave it in my jewelry box. Once my fingers are back to normal, back it goes for good.

Cindi said...

Good morning Anna,
I wanted to let you know that wearing your wedding ring will never get old. After 22 years I still wear mine and very rarely do I ever take it off. I clean it often, but I would never want to misplace it so I always keep it on. It's spring here in mountains of southwest Virginia and the weather is slowly starting to warm up. Hope you get your viewing problem fixed. Try emptying your temporary internet files and cookies, sometimes I can't get pictures to post on blogger because mine are full.

Love and Friendship

MrsFranklin said...

I actually have two sets of rings. My first set, dh purchased while over in Japan. I love it. It was too big for me but I refused to have it sized (good thing) because it would take too long to do so dh put a guard on it. Over the years I have had to have it sized because of weight gain/loss. I even had them sautered together. Unfortunately, they ring has split (I can still wear it) from the constant resizing. I'm dropping it off to be repaired once more. This ring in all its repairs and brokenness represents the struggles we've had in our marriage. I will never part with it!

Dh bought me a new set for Christmas. I love this set. I take better care of it than I did with my first set now that I am older and wiser! I clean it better, I take it off when I sleep (digs in my face anyway) and when I cook messy stuff.

This new ring symbolizes the newness of our marriage, it is complete and whole! No wounds. A solid complete circle.

My first set will be repaired and placed on my right hand where it resides right now. The old and the new! The old reminds me of where we've been, the new reminds me of where we are going!

Thia said...

I wear mine all the time. The only time I take it off is when my fingers swell at night when I am pg. It really doesn't happen often (thankfully).

AnneK said...

I never wear it inside the house. As soon as I come home from work, I take it off along with changing to my house clothes. I feel weird wearing it inside the house.

If by a rare chance I forget to wear it when I step out of the house, I feel so nak*d like I forgot to wear my clothes or something. Hubby NEVER takes it off, except when he takes a shower.

My parents don't wear any, they have been happily married for 35 years. It is just a symbol some people choose to wear. I don't think a ring in and itself means anything. It is what meaning we ascribe to it.

Mrs. Mills said...

Hi Anna:) I didn't take off my wedding ring for nearly 3 weeks after my husband put it on my finger. I was planning on never taking it off but it got dirty and I had to, I was so disapointed. I have two rings also, one is a big white and yellow gold band that I wear on my left hand, the other is a plain white gold band that matches my engagement ring, I wear that on my right hand with my diamond. I'ts pretty easy to tell I'm a married woman:)

A Pretty Home said...

Good morning Anna!
:)

Rob and I will be marrid 13 years in 5 days!!! We were married May 20, 1995. My Dad is a pastor and he married us. I was 20 years old at the time. Pretty young nowadays hey! And Im even more in life with him than the day we were married :) :) :)

But about my ring :) Both Rob and I take it off for showers and sleeping and I sometimes take it off for baking. Other than that, we always wear it. And the only reason I do take it off for those times is because at nights I put both of our rings in a jewelry cleaner to clean them. They are clean rings but have many dings and scratches which is so neat to look at after all these years :)

Hugs,
Candy

Amanda said...

I occassionally take off my engagement ring, if I am doing something esp. messy, like gardening or making bread. But my wedding ring never comes off, and hopefully never will.

My grandma and grandpa were married 51 years. Grandpa died in '86 (one day after their 51st anniversary); grandma just died last March at the age of 92. She never took off her wedding ring. I aspire for that kind of record.

singlemomforgod said...

Anna,

I am probably going to sound so unconventional, but when I get married I am not going to have a wedding ring. I also don't have or wear an engagement ring because I don't wear jewelry.

I posted about it on my blog and got some pretty luke warm emails and resposnses, however I feel a peace about this and don't believe that it will make me any more or any less married than someone who wears one. But I don't judge any one who does, in the end I only pray that all married couples are happy being enveloped in the sanctiy of marrige whether you wear a ring or not, the bottom line in my little humble opinion is that we remain faithful to our vows if we have a ring or no.

My parents pawned theirs because they fell on hard times and my sister was gravely ill, they never got to get it back and my mother felt like a new one would not and could never replace her original one and they will be happily married 35 years this November and I've never seen them with a ring. I hope I don't sound overbearing or judgmental as this is just my humble conviction.

I am so happy for you and reading your new life just give me the extra encouragement that the blissfulness of marriage is worth all the wait!!!

Shanese said...

I don't wear my wedding ring anymore because I have gained too much weight and it no longer fits comfortably. When it fit I wore it everyday. I didn't tend to wear it inside the house. I have often thought of getting another because mine can't be resized to fit my size now.

MrsFranklin said...

I forgot to mention that I wear my first set on my right ring finger!

Kim said...

I selected "always" but there is ONE household duty that I take it off for. That's when I'm kneading dough or mixing meat with my hands. If I don't take it off, stuff will get stuck in the ring. But for everything else it is on...sleeping, showering, etc.

Anonymous said...

I don't wear mine when I sleep because I'm afraid I would take it off when while I'm asleep (I tend to do strange things while asleep)!!

Rachel said...

I had to take mine off in the last month of my pregnancy, and I take it off if I'm working around the cattle, since I've known a couple people to lose fingers that way, but other than that it stays on all the time.

Jeannie said...

I wear mine always, with one exception so far- I am now 5-1/2 months pregnant and while they still fit, my hands swell if I do any intensive work with them, making my my finger hurt where my rings are. I finally had to take them off the other day. I was quite sad to have to do it, I love my rings and what they represent. I don't like people giving me a look as if I am an unwed mother (hubby and I have baby faces). I have seen people notice my belly then immediately look at my hand. It's sad that they are so quick to judge.

Anonymous said...

Dear Anna,

In your poll- I said I wear my ring all the time, but in an effort of total full disclosure, last summer, my husband and I took a team of students on a humanitarian mission to Honduras, and due to safety reasons, I did not wear my ring. I felt naked without it though.

-Rachelle

Betsy said...

I only take mine off for kneading dough (there's a special cup on a shelf in my kitchen for it) and for cleaning. I hate being without it so much when I get it cleaned that I bought a cheap little one ($12 or so) to wear when I have to be without it in public! Silly, I know, but I also don't like to be toting a toddler around without a ring on my finger (It's a pride thing. We're working on it.)

Melissa said...

I wear my rings (engagement ring and wedding band) all the time, except when mixing food, such as bread dough or meatloaf, with my hands.

Anonymous said...

I, too, always wear me rings, except when I'm making bread. I have taken them off for more extended periods during each of my pregnancies when I started to swell, but I'm usually able to get back into them a few weeks after the births. I LOVE my rings, they are vintage 1920s platinum. They are very very small, with tiny diamonds but it perfect for me. I'd never want anything bigger, even when my husband wants to.

Side note, Anna, thanks for responding to my email, it means so much to me.

Linsey

lorelei4mc said...

I don't sleep or shower wearing rings. Truthfully, I seldom wear my real wedding ring. While I love both my e-ring and w-ring, I broke the center diamond out of the e-ring after two years (it was repaired) and have dislodged more prongs than I can count, so I save those for special occasions, and for day-to-day use, (housework, gardening, errands, etc.) and travel, I wear an inexpensive industrial-strength plain tungsten carbide band. I think we paid about $40 for it online.

Mrs W said...

I wore mine for the first four months of our marriage and haven't worn it since...because this is the second time I've been pregnant since then and it hasn't fit since I had to take it off with the first pregnancy. We will get it resized eventually when we can afford it.

PamelaK said...

Anna,
So glad about your internet!
I've always worn my wedding and engagement rings, except when I was pregnant with my first child and had severe toxemia, they wouldn't fit, so I wore them around my neck, and when I had to be admitted to the hospital for a severe kidney infection and kidney stone, they would not allow jewelry, so instead of using the hospital safe that they offered (I just didn't trust it), I entrusted my rings to my close friend who had taken me to the hospital.

Courtney said...

To me there is no reason to ever take it off unless it is for cleaning the ring. To me if I take it off, it feels like Im being unfaithful since with that ring I vowed before God to be a wife and lover of great worth to my husband. Not to mention you dont get as much unwanted attention. And for those of us who aren't Jewish and wear head coverings, it is nice to have somehting that says "yes, Im married". Cherish your ring always! And as long as you love your husband, the beauty of it never fades. My husband and I are going on 3 years and it is still as special and as beautiful as when he put it on my finger.

Gothelittle Rose said...

I wear my ring unless I'm washing dishes, scrubbing the toilet, washing my hands, or taking a shower. I wear it swimming, cooking unless I'm manipulating foodstuff with my hands, sleeping, doing... other things...

It's never far from me. If I'm in a public bathroom, I won't put it on the countertop. If I don't have a pocket I'll put it in my mouth (just enough to hold it, like a nail, not like I'm eating it or something.)

I never wore any jewelry at all for long, but my wedding ring is a very simple slender gold band with no engravings or gems, and it's fitted well, so I don't have a problem with it. I own an engagement ring and a class ring, but I almost never wear them.

Serena said...

I'm another that only takes it off while kneading bread. (I put "Always" in the poll.) I love wearing my rings! I have big knuckles and skinny fingers, so, so far, I've been able to wear my rings during pregnancy. If my fingers end up swelling too much this time around (August baby!), I have a silver band that my husband bought me that will fit. I have taken my rings off to get cleaned, but that was a matter of five minutes or so, since we know 'our' jeweler, and she always offers when we go in her shop...to *look* at all of the lovely antique jewelry, not to buy! When I worked at Starbucks, my rings would get so filthy, but since I've been home, they stay nice and clean. I kind of think that washing dishes by hand helps them stay that way, too. I love my rings. I don't think there are any in the world as pretty! ;)

Kaeus said...

i take my rings off when im dealing with dough, because it takes too much time to get all the sticky out. they stay on the bookshelf in the kitchen that necer gets touched and is too high for a 3yr old to reach.

if its a particularly cold day and the rings feel loose, i will take them off if dealing with water - swimming for obvious reason, showering because the drain under the bathtub has an enormous gaping hole around it. i am terrified of losing my rings.

the only other time i didnt wear them was during my pregnancy, and for a few months after. i gained a LOT of weight, and then swelled up like a balloon, and the rings wouldnt fit. so i wore them on a chain around my neck.

Mrs.KAOS said...

My husband and I wear our rings all the time except when we sleep and shower. We both suffer from swollen fingers at night. And I also wear my engagement ring all but when doing something very messy. We purposely chose rings that would not be a problem with any tremors or other physical issues that might arise. I plan that if my figures do a long term swell during pregnancy to 'borrow' a wedding ring from a relative. My grandmother has held onto the wedding rings of may a family member who has gone before her; because she has the same problem I do.

Anonymous said...

I almost always wear mine, but I occasionally take it off if I'm swimming at the beach or even in the pool.

-Mrs. G

Kristi said...

I only take mine off for working with dough or meat with my hands. My engagement ring, because of its design, comes off when I am working lotion into my hands. (It would get all gunky.) Otherwise they stay on day and night.

Dawn said...

I don't wear mine...personal conviction.
I did at first when we married (I was never a jewelry fan growing up anyway...just thought it makes people look fake...lol) and then after I got saved the Lord convicted me of the jewelry thing.
I still have that ring (simple gold band from WalMart. It's in a small bag with my high school ring).
When we renewed our vows in 2005, we both got matching silver bands from WalMart (such cheapskates we are)and I wore mine for maybe a few days before it went off again.

Now my hubby wears mine as he lost his either in Iraq or at work.

So, it all worked out. :-)

I don't make a big deal out of the whole ring thing. Wear it if you want, wear it if you don't want too (hence the reason why rings shouldn't cost an arm and a leg).

Bless you Anna!

Jordin said...

My rings (band and engagement ring) just came off on Sunday! Pregnancy has made my fingers swell terribly, but I kept them on as long as I could!

I usually wear my ring, unless I'm using my hands to cook. (Making meatloaf, kneading dough, etc.) I definitely wear it when I'm showering or sleeping, though.

Mia said...

Anna,
My husband and I made a promise to NEVER take off our wedding rings...not even for a second. And we have kept them on continuously for nearly twelve years! My fingers swelled so much during pregnancy (eleven years ago), that I couldn't have removed it if I'd wanted to. My dear husband even refused to remove his ring when he underwent surgery years ago.

Anonymous said...

Just as with any other 'jewelry', e.g. brooch, watch, name tag, I don't mess around with taking my wedding ring off or putting it on, as I'm afraid of losing it. I wear it all the time, whether baking bread, pretzels, or pizza. (I just wash my hands really well afterwards.) If my fingers swell too much from eating salt or pregnancy, I usually cut back on the salt intake. I don't think I ever took it off while pregnant. One time in a fit of some emotional issue, my husband took his off and didn't wear it again, so I wear his under mine. (He has slender fingers, so it looks like two wedding bands together.) I wish I'd consulted him at the original purchase, but we were living far apart until the actual wedding, so I'd already purchased his before we got together. He said that it was a tradition in his culture that the prospective groom and bride go together, divy up their money and buy two of the same simple design. Water under the bridge...working on the present, for the future of our marriage. The band merely represents a romantic memento of my ongoing commitment.

neuropoet3 said...

Anna, I absolutely love your ring - it has to be one of the most unique wedding bands I've ever seen! :)
I wear both my engagement ring and wedding ring all the time - both on my ring finger of my left hand. If I'm kneading dough I'll take them off for a few minutes, but that doesn't happen very often any more because I'm having some strange muscle issues - not strong enough to knead dough anymore. My rings are actually a little big for me - they fit best during the months I was pregnant - so sometimes I wrap them with a band-aid or something if they're really loose. For a few years I had a spacer put in so they would fit better, but I had to remove that with my second pregnancy. :) We've always planned on getting the rings sized properly, but there has always been more important things to spend the money on. I'm very thankful that they haven't been permanently lost (though I have had quite a few scares). My hubby is on his third ring since our wedding - one was lost in the military, and one was lost hunting. I have to admit I was sad with the loss of his original ring - I really cherished the moment I put it on his finger as a symbol of our commitment to each other on our wedding day - but such is life. I remember the first night we were married he took his ring off when we were going to sleep -- I had a hissy fit and insisted he put it back on! :)

Peace,
~Jenny

Amy Evans said...

I don't wear jewelry at all (due to my religious beliefs), so I don't wear a wedding ring. Nobody in my church wears wedding rings, so it's really not an odd thing to me.

Tracie said...

My wedding band is my most treasured possession and you could count on one hand how many times it has been off my finger in 25 years. I don't take it off for anything...

Have a good day...

PandaBean said...

I only take off my ring when my hands will get wet. I've lost a little weight since I got married and it tends to slip off when wet. I also can have a hard time with it slipping around when it's cold, my hands get chilly very easily and seem to "shrink", but this simply means I adjust it more often.

Sorry I haven't been around in months. Glad to hear about your wedded bliss!

God Bless!

Laura said...

I had an engagement that ended.

I never really could get the ring sized right, so I didn't wear it much. I liked it though, it was white gold with a very small stone. And when he ended the engagement he never asked for it back so I sold it.

Right now, gemstone engagement rings are popular (maybe because of the whole blood diamond thing). If I ever get engaged again I might like my birthstone for an engagement ring.

PhDCow said...

I had worn my rings all the time. Then about 6 months ago, I couldn't get it off. No big deal until I got cellulitis on the back of that finger right where the rings are. I had to have the rings cut off and was treated with antibiotics. Now that my rings are repaired and resized, I take them off every night and put them back on after my shower and my hair is done.

IMO, I'm no less married for those 8 hours that I'm not wearing them.

Anonymous said...

I tend not to wear my rings in the house simply because they can either get in the way or get damaged or lost (i.e.- down the drain) by my household tasks. However, I am NEVER without them outside the house! (Except the one time we went into the city and it seemed wiser to leave them at home.)

Generally I guess I try to do whatever is in my rings' best interest so they will be available when I need them to give an honest account of my marital status when out and about.

JanH

jan m said...

I have had my rings off my finger only once in 35 years, when they slipped off when I was gardening. I was in a panic till I found them. The rings I wear were my husband's grandmothers, given to her in 1918. During my first cesarian delivery, the nurse asked me to remove them, but I convinced her to tape over them instead.

TheRetroHousewife said...

I didnt know people took their wedding rings off other than just for a chore. Well I take that back, I do see married people who dont wear a ring at all and I think they must not be committed to their marriage. I take mine off only when doing something like kneading bread.

I promise you, if you cherish your ring this much now then that wont fade once you are longer into your marriage, it only gets more precious. The ring my husband bought me is simple, it serves as my wedding band and engagement ring. Recently he saw another one I had (a family ring) that was bigger and brighter and said I could wear it...I did but not for long. I missed my simple little ring that we picked out together and all the memories held within it.

Amy Evans said...

Well I take that back, I do see married people who dont wear a ring at all and I think they must not be committed to their marriage....theretrohousewife


I just celebrated my 17th wedding anniversary, and I can assure you that I am wholly and completely committed to my marriage. My love and devotion to my husband did not change one bit when I took my wedding rings off, just as my love and devotion to Jesus Christ did not change one bit when I took my Cross necklace off.

Wedding rings do not a marriage make. Love, devotion, and selfless surrender go much further in creating a solid, lasting marriage than a set of gold rings ever could.

Ewokgirl said...

I've gotten to where I can't stand to have rings on my fingers. I wear my wedding and engagement rings whenever I go out, but once I'm home, I usually take them off and put them in my jewelry box. I'd love to be one of those women who wears them always, but the feeling can drive me nuts. I have a jewelry box full of beautiful rings that are never worn anymore for this very reason.

Kacie said...

My husband and I enjoy wearing our wedding bands as much as possible. I take my rings off when I'm doing dirty housework, so that I don't damage it.

Monday was our first wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, that day, my husband's ring slipped off in the ocean :(. We were unable to find it.

We plan on getting him another one ASAP, and I found an exact version of it that I hope to get (but in a smaller size!).

The ring is just a symbol of our love, but it shows the world that we're happily married.

Tony said...

I kept it all the time. Exchanging Rings symbolises the love and devotion among the ring bearers. A wedding ring or engagement ring is a precious metal ring given as a betrothal present to indicate marital commitment. Such rings are usully worn in the left hand ring finger.

Anonymous said...

I love my fiance and my engagement ring dearly, however, I always take my ring off when I get home from work at night, and when I practice yoga. If I wear my ring during yoga it steals my focus.