If you have never visited Israel can hardly imagine the magnitude of cultural variety, which is a true phenomenon in such a small country. Ashkenazi Jews and Sephardi Jews; Jews from Russia, Morocco, Yemen, India, Ethiopia and Australia; observant Jews and secular Jews; Tel Aviv and Jerusalem. A multitude of languages, dress codes, skin colors.
In my opinion, one of the biggest contradictions in Israeli society is that on the one hand, it's largely based on Jewish traditions - Jewish calendar, Jewish holidays, and of course everything about tradition that cannot exist without the structure of a Jewish family; on the other hand, many founders of Israel were zealous Marxists, who were against their own heritage and wanted a country for Jews that wouldn't actually be Jewish - simply based on ethnic and cultural reasons and as a refuge from antisemitism.
Which of course, as plain common sense will tell, can never work. If a Jew isn't Jewish, nothing ties him to Israel. There's of course historical and cultural significance, but it isn't enough. A Jew who doesn't believe this land was given to our father Abraham by God Almighty Himself, has no reason to stand firm. He has nothing to prevent him from assimilating, conforming, and melting away into other nations.
So, as religious Jews flowed to Israel and founded traditional communities and Torah schools, secularized Jews did their best to build a social model based on Marxism and communism - the kibbutz, with it's "everything for everyone" ideology. The kibbutz, where children didn't live with their parents, but instead were sent to a "children's house", where they slept and spent most of their free time, and only saw their parents on "visiting hours". Gender neutrality was hammered into children's heads, and many were traumatized from lack of seeing a traditional family unit as they were growing up. The kibbutz, as a social movement, has failed, just as the unnatural and forced social structure of communism failed after doing grave damage to Russia and every other country which was touched by it.
Nevertheless, Israeli society remains heavily institutionalized, and I'm convinced this is due to traces of Marxists who founded this country. For example, homeschooling is practically unheard of in Israel. Only not long ago, a small homeschooling community arose, formed mainly by parents who came from countries where homeschooling is common. They made the first pioneer steps, and now finally more parents are starting to see it as an acceptable option for their children. Still, it looks far, far, far more radical here than in certain areas of the US.
Also, staying at home with your children looks very socially unacceptable in Israel, and maternity leave is only 3 months. 3 months! The problem is exacerbated by the fact that in more traditional sectors of society, where women have many children and you'd think it would be more natural for them to stay home, a certain social trend developed in the past few decades - women supporting their husbands while they study Torah full-time. Throw in religious feminism, and you'll get a very glum picture of how family is pulled apart.
I must also mention the compulsory service of women in the army (2 full years), something unheard of in any civilized country. I won't buy into stories about how recruiting women is necessary for Israel's survival. It's typical communist brainwashing based on egalitarianism. Nations throughout history faced difficult situations, and whenever a bit of dignity still remained, women stayed behind. Fathers wouldn't send their young daughters away from home so they could be taught to crawl in the mud and use weapons, and have every bit of feminine gentleness extracted from them. It's true that women can be released from army quite easily for religious reasons - observant Jewish women generally don't serve, and neither do Muslims or Christian Arabs. But the default assumption is that an 18-year-old girl will go to the army, and I find this deeply wrong.
I don't think it's wise, prudent, or even beneficial in any way, for anyone, that an 18-year-old girl is taken away from her parents' home and into military training. Even if she is home every day, like at a normal job, the atmosphere usually doesn't support moral or religious values. I do have friends who served in the army and "escaped unscathed", but the risk is too high for a young girl, in my opinion.
Men have to carefully guard their purity standards in the army as well. From my husband's testimony, he often had to face temptation himself. Before going to the army, he studied in a yeshiva (men only, naturally) for 5 years, and before that he was in a school for boys only as well. Then he suddenly found himself locked in an office for the entire day, with young women dressed rather provocatively (many alter their uniform pants so that they sit lower, are tighter, and bring off their, hm, features). He told me there were a couple of girls who said hello by kissing on the cheek, and he was absolutely appalled when one of them did just that to him - simply approached and kissed him (at that time he wouldn't even think of touching a woman's little finger prior to being married to her). Overall, I think the excessive closeness between men and women in the army creates dangerous tension.
In the midst of it all, there are women who are simply trying to build a sweet, calm, peaceful, productive, traditional home life for their families. Women who are dedicated to their husbands and children, women who love to be feminine and gentle. I am blessed to know some of them, and can happily say there is still hope.