I got quite a few claims and queries through the comments section over the following weeks. Answers to some of those can be found on my sidebar (see FAQ). Others I don't think I've answered yet. However, first I'll just address arguments that begin with "of course, if you take the Bible literally, it is true, but..." - well yes, I do. If it is said explicitly in God's Word, it is the only Truth I need. I cannot discuss any subject with the premise that God's Word is somehow faulty, wrong, or imprecise.
"There is no such thing as masculine or feminine nature. Men and women aren't born different - they are simply shaped by society"
It is written in the book of Genesis, "male and female He created them". Obviously, we don't learn all we need to know about masculinity or femininity just from reading this - but it's equally obvious that if there had been no difference between men and women, there would be no need to mention that we were created "male and female".
"A woman can have a career, a family, a social life, and help to take care of the home, without neglecting any of the above"
Yes, we can "have it all", in the sense that we can cram every single day of our lives with activities we cannot fully dedicate our attention to, or enjoy in a relaxed manner. We can rush through our days without getting together with our family for even a single meal. We can neglect our homes until we feel like running away from them. We can go back and forth and back and forth about how many children it is "reasonable" for us to have so it won't interfere with our career plans. It has been hammered into our heads that this is, in fact, the most appealing of the alternatives we have - but somehow, it doesn't seem so to me. Dedicating my all to my highest calling seems so much more comforting than a life of endless cramming and juggling.
"A woman should do anything in her power not to depend on, or submit to a man"
Another lie we have been sold is that independence is the ultimate, highest value. "Authority", "submission", "humility" and "respect" are dirty words, and having your way is more important than marital harmony. We chose to ignore the fact that Eve was created to be a helpmeet for Adam, and not the other way around, nor were they told "you will BOTH be help meets for each other". What did we get? Series of meaningless relationships, bad marriages, divorce, and men who hate and fear women so much that they swear they will never marry. Sorry, but I prefer the type of marriage where my husband is a king, and I am his queen. No type of rebellious obsession with so-called independence can give me the satisfaction of living out marriage for the glory of God.
"If it weren't for feminists, you wouldn't have the right to speak your mind as a woman"
If there's one thing that drives me up the wall, it's how feminists paint themselves as the saviours of womankind, the ones that led us from darkness to light, from being a flock of mindless sheep who were chained to the stove and told to shut up, to thinking, feeling beings. Well I'm not sure what you've heard, but I've been taught that a godly woman "opens her mouth with wisdom" (Proverbs 31). These words were written a long, long, long time before feminists stepped into the picture. And yes, I'd rather do my best to open my mouth with wisdom, than fight for the right to utter any kind of nonsense that pops into my head.