Today, I received a phone call from a friend. She knew I was pregnant, so I expected an inquiry about whether the little one has made her appearance. Instead, I got a... job offer, and a few questions of a different kind.
Didn't I work at all after completing my studies? No, I have been a happy stay-at-home wife. I knew that in a few months, a baby will arrive, and so I took advantage of the time I had. Settling into the role of a wife, and learning how to run a household all on my own, definitely requires some adjustment – and while I'm nowhere near perfect yet, those first months at home were priceless.
I had the time to take care of my health, eat well, sleep and exercise during pregnancy. I didn't have to worry about explaining why some days, I'm less productive, or why I have to use the bathroom more often, or why I have to take time off for various check-ups and visits to my doctor.
Am I finally going to wise up and start using birth control, so I can get my life on track and promote my career? No, I would dearly love to have more babies. Not to mention that I find such inquiries improper. If, when, and how many children each married couple has, is between husband, wife and the Almighty.
After the conversation was over, I realized yet again how very, very fortunate I am. I am blessed beyond measure – beyond anything I deserve.
At twenty-three years old, I am married to my dearest, beloved husband, and we have a home of our own and a sweet baby girl. My husband appreciates the traditional womanly role, and supports me infinitely in my vocation as a wife and mother. There is no need to get my life "on track" – I am already right where I'm needed most, taking care of my family and home, and there's nowhere else I would rather be.
I can spend my days doing productive work at home, instead of running to and from a boring, stressful job. I don't need to think about sending my baby away to daycare in a few short weeks. Nothing threatens to limit the hours during which I can nurse, hold and cuddle my baby. I can enjoy the creativity of home. My husband works long hours, and by being home, I ensure that whenever he can take time off, I'm here.
I have my own realm, where I am truly making a difference, shaping lives, and working towards the future. The Almighty generously blessed me with the gifts of marriage and motherhood, and I praise Him from the depth of my soul and the very essence of my being.