Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Only that which is lovely

Our blossoming grapefruit tree is attracting these beauties. I can never get them to sit still long enough to take a decent picture, so I uploaded one from Wikipedia. One briefly sat on my laundry rack this morning, probably attracted by the bright colors.

I think it's highly important for expectant mothers and mothers of small children to be careful about what they choose to watch, read and listen to, and surround themselves with loveliness. A calm and quiet spirit of the mother influences the entire household and especially her babies.

We live in a world where, sadly, one can find lots of pain, danger and darkness. Atrocities are reported on the news in fresh hourly reports, the purpose of which is to keep us glued to the screen in a permanent state of anxiety and agitation.

I'm not saying we should become disconnected from reality. Some of us are currently in a situation when ignoring the news completely might put you in actual danger. But there is something more tension-inducing about television reports. Thankfully, we don't have a TV, and I don't browse news websites more than once a day. If there is something important, my husband will usually know about it and inform me. For truly urgent situations, we have an emergency beeper.

I have deliberately avoided writing too much about what is currently happening in Israel. This is not because I live in a bubble, but because I'm determined to keep our home a place of peace, rest, and beauty. I'm doing this for the sake of my husband, and for our sweet child who is about to enter this world any day now. I have awareness, but I refuse to become unsettled.

This is why I continue to happily spend my days making beds, doing dishes, folding laundry, cooking, baking and cleaning; I read, do crafts, take walks and watch our garden grow. I sit for long stretches of time with my hand on my belly, feeling the movements of the dear treasure within.

If there is ever a collective draft of all adult men here, I want my husband to be able to go away knowing he is leaving a calm, responsible wife and mother behind, someone who will be a source of support and comfort to any children we might have. Drawing my consciousness within, I surrender to God and give my all to my precious family.

53 comments:

Anonymous said...

very nice post..i agree...you are so wise and you inspire me as a mother..
i need to remind myself to think on lovely things and i keep forgetting that my moods in fact do affect the atmosphere of my home..thanks for that reminder!

Sasha said...

Great post.I don't watch the news too much either, because I noticed watching news makes me sad and anxious all the time.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing about your goal of having a peaceful heart. This post can apply to anyone, no matter where they live or what their troubles may be. You have given me much to ponder today.

Anonymous said...

Your peace is a precious gift. I thank God for the peace he has given you, and pray for the safety of you family at this time.
Sher

Marianne said...

You have such a beautiful heart, Mrs. Anna.

lady jane said...

**I'm determined to keep our home a place of peace, rest, and beauty**

a refuge. a haven. a place of rest.

**I surrender to God and give my all to my precious family**

selah.

Stephanie said...

The suspense is killing me - have the baby already!

Mrs. Anna T said...

Stephanie,

We can't wait to meet our little one, too! She'll come when she's ready, though.

Sheila said...

Hi Anna!

Thanks for posting on my blog! I'm glad my words comforted you, for I do have tremendous admiration and compassion for those of you who live on the front lines of the major battle our world is facing right now.

Thanksfully, we know we are not alone, and that God is over this. But it's still hard, I'm sure, to hear hatred on a daily basis.

So glad you don't have a TV! We don't either. Why listen to all that negativity?

Anonymous said...

Yes, Anna, a peaceful home is a treasure....and it starts with the mother of that home. I just don't have alot of time to listen to the news and therefore, I there is less for me to fret over....hence, more peace! I choose to think about what is true, lovely, good report....we are admonished to think about these things...

Tell folks the baby's due date is when the Lord decides to send her! :)

AnneK said...

That is a very good attitude. It is great you have a sensible head on your shoulders. May God bless you and keep your little family safe from all harm!

Elizabeth said...

I really appreciate this beautiful post, my friend! I continue to keep you (meaning you AND your dear husband and baby!) and Israel in my prayers. I'm SURE you can't wait to meet your little one. I wonder how many readers of your blog are - er ... like me! -checking back several times a day to see if she's "come" yet! :)

homemakeratheart said...

you are such an inspiration!
you really are.

Anonymous said...

This is very well said!!
-Grace

Zoe said...

Beautiful post, beautiful picture, did you take it?

Also: hi baby!

Gombojav Tribe said...

I'm sure you know this, but babies can totally sense the moods of their mothers.

If you listen to a baby's heart rate when you are at rest you know the normal numbers. Then if you think of something unsettling and disturbing or something that makes you afraid, and then you listen to your baby's heart rate the numbers totally change!

Then if you calm yourself and think lovely thoughts again and becaome at peace and listen, the rate will return to normal.

AMAZING!!!

Continue in your loveliness, Anna....

Sandy said...

When my husband was in combat, I refused to watch the news. Much of what is reported is incorrect anyway and I knew if anything important happened, someone else would tell me. I've never regretted that. We can sit and watch and fret and become fearful...or we can go about our daily lives refusing to let current events steal from us our peace and time with our families. Better to go ahead and enjoy the butterflies, there is nothing we can do to stop these events anyway. As Elizabeth said above, we here are praying for your family and your country.

Bethany Hudson said...

What a lovely attitude, Anna...but then, you just exude loveliness :) It really is so important for all members of a household that the mother of the home embody and encourage an atmosphere of loveliness and peace. I do read the paper each day, as I like to stay informed and am not an anxious person by nature. I would probably rethink this practice if I were more prone to anxiety and worry. And (as you know) I applaud the no-TV approach. The nightly news on television is so much more sensational than reading it in the paper! (or at least our paper)
~Bethany

Q said...

You are absolutely right. My first daughter was born to a calm and rested mother into a quiet life. She ate well, slept through the night quickly and was very easy. While pregnant with my second daughter my life was seriously distressed and chaotic. For the first year she rarely slept!

Blessings to you for already having the wisdom to know that you are keeper of your home, atmosphere, tone, and all!

Praying for that delivery.

Tracy said...

I'm constantly amazed at how ell you're able to articulate your thoughts, Anna. Wish I would have been as calm as you when I had my first little one nearly 18 years ago!

Rose said...

I've said it before and I'll say it again. You are wise beyond your years dear Anna.

Terry said...

Lovely post Anna. You and your family are in my prayers as always. I say an extra one at night for the safe arrival of your little one!

Lots of Love!

Rhonda Jean said...

Hello Anna. I agree wholeheartedly. It's the same as a healthy diet. What we choose to leave out, is just as important as what we choose to consume. Being selective with what you give your attention to is a very wise thing.

I wish you well with your confinement and look forward to knowing you and your new baby are well. Take care, love.

Mrs Marshall said...

Amen Mrs T, Amen! What a wonderful God-centred attitude to have! Your husband is blessed to have such a wise wife, as I am certain you are blessed to have such a wonderful husband! God bless you both... you are in all of our prayers I am sure!

Susan said...

You are very wise in setting your mind on what is lovely. To answer Elizabeth's comment, I am one of your readers who reads diligently for news of new life. I also keep Israel in my prayers. May God continue to keep your family safe.

cmoursler said...

Well, boy howdy....a collective draft. I always forget how small israel is. I will be praying for you and your baby and your husband. I know how it feels to have your husband go off to war. My husband was in Iraq four times. Best thing to do is keep busy and keep good thoughts. Believe it or not having a baby really helps.
Bless you and yours,
cm.oursler

Miss Rose Virginia said...

God bless you and your family.

Anonymous said...

This is a great post, Anna. I read it aloud to my 15 year old daughter, & she has instructed me to say, on her behalf, how much she agrees with you about this! She said, "Anna is SO right, Mom. she needs to be surrounded by good things." She went on to say that she wonders if she is the person she is because of the things I chose to do, eat, read, listen to, & so forth. I was happy to hear her take on this. :o)

It's crucial that we mamas shield our little ones.....in utero, & out!

Brenda

Ace said...

Hi Anna, you must be about to pop! Rub that belly one more time, it will be a sweet memory. I remember when my Princesses came out I was astonished that a fully formed human being had just been inside me...and I was able to safely snuggle them for just that short time. Oh, I want more babies...

Anyhoo, I am so with you on this. I remember when I first got pregnant with Princess Joy I had this urging to censor things around me. I remember in the Bible where God tells (I think it is Jacob) to put the spotted and speckled sticks in front of the herd so that their babies will come out that way. And I remember another story about a town in Asia full of twins and researchers could find that the only thing they could link it to is the town is under these two twin mountains and the Mothers looked at them all day.

I really do think what is before your eyes and in your heart affects your baby. I wouldn't watch anything violent or sad, I listened to fun music and sang and I kept myself from getting upset as much as possible.

I did get into an argument with The General and the baby just would not settle for like an hour. Sad, I learned not to do that again.

I also think you are right, this goes for children as well. I guard my Princesses innocence! Today we tried to watch a simple dance show and the woman was performing in a very, very short dress with just a THONG underneath, this is a show for CHILDREN! AND they kept doing shots of her there. I was horrified and turned it off. Other people think I am crazy, I KNOW I will answer to the Lord for what I put and allow before their eyes.

I think that you are doing the best thing possible for you and your family and are wise beyond your years when you talk about making home peaceful and wanting to ease your husband's mind should he have to leave.

I am in a similar situation with The General and it keeps him focused on what he has to do to know that not only will I care for the home, but I will guard it and the children.

A focused husband is a safe husband and I leave the guarding of me up to the Lord :)

Many Blessings :)
Ace

Hill upon Hill said...

I am thinking of you today and am thankful for your post.

pedalpower said...

God bless you and your family. You are doing to right thing keeping as calm as possible for your husband and baby. As mothers I think we often set the tone in our homes and if we can create a nourishing place for our husbands and children, what a blessing that is. When I watch the news, I worry and keep all involved in this conflict in my prayers. You sound like a strong young woman.

Julia said...

Hmmm, no post yet on Wednesday. Could you be having a baby! :) !!!

Anonymous said...

Anna, you should write a book. You are very talented and have good thoughts.

We are praying for Israel. I know you don't want your blog to be too heavy and sad, but I'd love to hear first hand, exactly what is going on over there and I trust that you'd give us an honest post about it.

Sometimes political blogs can be very slanted. You are a wife and mother and I'd love to hear what life is really like living in Israel in the midst of attacks.

Stay safe...I check your blog to make sure you are safe.

Kristin-Homemaker@Heart said...

no post today? did the baby come?
:o)

Aimee Kieffer, aka "Momzoo" said...

I appreciate the peacefullness of your blog. That is one of the many reasons I am drawn to read it every day.

I pray that all will go well for you and your new baby. I remember so well when my babies can, those were happy, happy days!

Sarah Jane said...

I just came across your blog recently and wanted to thank you for the thoughtful and very inspiring posts you take the time to write. This one especially touched me as I agree so much with what you said. Of course, my ideal for living and my reality of it are all too often two different things but having this goal of a peaceful home and atmosphere to strive for is wonderful!

I will be praying for you as you await the birth of your little blessing, if she is not already here yet! I am expecting my 3rd little baby (boy) on the 16th and can imagine how excited you must be as the day of her birth draws near!

Jenna said...

That's the perfect perspective a lady can have... and you've expressed it so eloquently! Thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

I've only visited your blog a few times, but I think I'm going to add you to the list of sites I visit regularly. :) From the looks of it, I will be one of many who appreciate your refreshing words of wisdom!

May God bless you with a peaceful delivery of your little one.

SeaRune said...

Good for you! May God bless you and your family abundantly. I really enjoy reading your blog. :)

Anonymous said...

Oh! I just noticed the "baby gauge" at the top. So she's "ready"! I'm so excited for you, your husband and daughter!
Mrs. L.

Marytoo said...

Hello, Mrs. Anna! You are going to be a wonderful mother. Or maybe you already are? Be blessed!

Slice of life said...

beaming you good thoughts. I hope the baby is here.

colourdujour said...

beautifully written, with a wise sense of balance.

Kelly said...

Wow, how nice to read this. I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Back at the end of my pregnancy I just couldn't take watching the news anymore. Once my daughter was born, same thing, I just couldn't bear it. All the constant influx of bad news was too much to bear.
Even now, my daughter is 3, I severely limit my exposure to news. I try to keep on top of the big stuff, but I also try to get it from reading about it, less emotional compared to a news person going on and on with all that emotion in their voice.
I used to be such a news junkie. Now I can't take it. I too notice it was important to stay calm while pregnant and even after. Today my daughter will get upset easily if I am, so staying calm is very important.
I too have felt that all I want to do is take care of my home and that's it.
And when you really think of it if God is in control of everything, why do we need to constant find out and worry over every little news item every day?
And with today's technology we're exposed to so much MORE news than past generations, who back then only heard about things weeks after the event.

MaineAnnie and Family said...

Dear Mrs. T
I am praying for you, all the way over here on the other side of the globe. Although I may not know personally what you are going through, our Lord does. May your baby be born in health and grow in strength and peace and truth, may your home be guarded and kept from evil and trouble, may you and your husband have wisdom to live in the world we have been born into. There is always something lovely to be found, always hope to have, always something to love and rejoice in. It is such a gift to be the keeper of the home, be gracious and courageous. Psalm 127
Ann

lady jane said...

A wee note just to say I'm thinking of you, praying for you, and holding you tenderly in my thoughts. I have a feeling you're giving birth about now...at least I hope so! :o)

Blessings, dear Anna.

Tracey McBride said...

You put your thoughts so beautifully. I agree with you on the power of focus. Blessings to you and your family.
Warmly,
Tracey

SuzyQ said...

Great Post! I found your blog by way of Lisa at Unexpected Journey :0)
I don't watch TV and my girls only watch movies at special times. I think it has been a healthy choice for our family.

SpejoryMama said...

Yes, we will always have pain and trouble but if we just look to the good and lovely things in life, God will give us peace beyond understanding. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

tales_from_the_crib said...

Anna, you haven't been on since Wednesday...are you having your baby? Either way, know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband and lovely (possibly still not born yet) baby.

Kim said...

I am hoping that your absence in posting the past couple of days is that you have had your little girl. :)

Sophie said...

Anna - your silence for a few days makes me wonder if your baby has been born or if you are in labour. I hope that everything is going well no matter what stage you're at, and I am praying for all three of you!

Anonymous said...

Praying your absence means you are busy cuddling your new little blessing!

Candylei said...

Glad to hear you are feeling so well and happy. All your 9 months of waiting to see this beautiful baby of you and your husband's. Your family must be excited waiting for the call, too. :)

We're all thinking of you!