Back in the end of 2007, I had no idea how soon my life would become a whirlwind of changes. In less than four months, from a single woman not knowing whether she will ever get married, I became a wife; and a couple of short weeks later I already had a baby on the way.
It's amazing how swiftly God can work the most incredible changes in our lives, and there is no way we can know His plan. Therefore, every single woman who is contemplating marriage, should put her best efforts into preparing - whether she has a potential husband in view or not. Even if you don't know it, he might be already on his way and when he arrives, you will be so glad that you put time and thought into preparation of mind, heart and soul, as well as into practical work of your hands which will be useful in a home of your own.
Lately, I've been following Tracy's blog with great excitement. Tracy and her husband Verne will be giving their beautiful daughter, Autumn, away in marriage. Autumn is only 16, but she is far better equipped for marriage than many women today who get married in their late twenties or thirties. Autumn is blessed to have two loving, involved parents and a protecting father, and to witness the wonderful example of her parents' marriage. She is homeschooled, and therefore knows better than the average young person how a home is run and managed. She can cook, she can clean and bake and sew, and to sum it up, knows so many essential things I had no clue about when I was her age. I'm so looking forward to reading all about the wedding, and the beginning of Autumn and Jon's new life together. I know many of my fellow blog pals are just as excited for Tracy and their entire family.
Unfortunately, many young women in our generation were raised by single mothers who were bitter and disappointed in marriage and men, and hardly spent any time at home. They might have earned prestigious education, but they know very little about the workings of marriage and family, or the womanly works and arts such as cooking, sewing, and everything involved in providing a pleasant home. And when these young women (such as myself back then) realize that in fact, what they want most of all is to have a good marriage and family, and an orderly, loving home, they discover that they are on their own and there's no one to guide them.
I felt this way in college, in particular during my final year. I was completing all my assignments and taking my tests, but my heart wasn't into it at all. I was growing to love more and more the simple daily doings of a home, and could hardly wait to get married and have a family and home of my own. In the meantime, I was stocking up on valuable practical homemaking skills - thank God for that, because I had no idea how soon I would meet and marry my husband. How thankful I am now that I spent the couple of years prior to my marriage catching up on all the basic domestic knowledge I had missed out on before! Marriage, then motherhood, just came upon me so soon and suddenly there's much less time to learn.
Over the time I've been blogging, I received emails from many young women who told me that they want to get married and dedicate their lives to raising a family and keeping a home, yet their parents are either absent, uninvolved or discouraging. It does make their path harder. It's my sincere wish that more young women had someone to understand the desires of their heart, and to guide them.
Without anyone to do that, we have to exercise an extra measure of caution and care. The world would have us believe that preparing for marriage and learning to love the home can be put on the back burner, while in fact it's one of the most important things a young woman can do. I'm firmly convinced that us coming to marriage unprepared, our expectations inflated and ambitions unsatisfied, is responsible in a large part for the horrible divorce rate of today. A good, solid marriage is so, so important for the well-being of the individual family and their children, and of society in general. Putting time and care into marriage (and in preparation for it) is one of the most important investments you'll ever make.