A few days ago, I first found out about the wonderful website called Guard Your Eyes. It was started with the idea of helping Jewish men overcome battles with lust, immorality and porn addiction. However, I believe that the advice distributed there can be helpful to any man and/or family struggling with these issues, Jewish or not.
It is so difficult for men to guard their eyes, and even religious men who have loving wives and a good family life ofter give in to porn addiction. Those who resist the temptation of easily available pornography still have to deal with women who put it all on display at work places or just walking down the street.
I'm not justifying infidelity or impure thoughts. Nothing can justify this. However, I believe it's important to approach the issue with compassion and see what men have to deal with. A typical man isn't geared emotionally like a typical woman. Handsome men don't trigger the same reaction in women as beautiful women do in men, especially when the women go practically uncovered.
If a man is married, lust addiction is subtly (or not so subtly) destroying his marriage and the close bond he might have with his wife. If a man is single, he is setting the foundation for harming his future marriage. Either way it's poisonous for men-women relationships.
Often, the blame is put on the woman: she did not pay enough attention to her appearance, she wasn't loving enough, she didn't display enough affection and attraction towards her husband. While the wife's attitude can certainly help, it is not all. No matter how nice-looking and loving a wife is, she cannot and is not supposed to compete with thousands and thousands of younger women whose bodies were not changed by pregnancies and births.
If you know someone who is struggling with this problem (and sadly, most of us probably do), or have to face it yourself, I encourage you to visit Guard Your Eyes, see the advice for getting rid of lust addiction, and read stories of former addicts. May our marriages be spared this plague.