In an age when relationships are cheapened, it becomes increasingly important to seek out, and be one of, those people who will look deep into your soul and cherish you for who you are. Who look for a spouse not as a source of convenience, efficient household keeping, or regular sex, but as a lifelong best friend and partner in all ways life may turn.
"There can be a kind of promiscuity without physical contact. It occurs wherever people "get to know" one another without coming to care for one another."
The increased availability of social contacts in the global village era, the easiness with which we now meet people, is contributing to increased pickiness.
In one of the latest Shabbat leaflets, I read the story of a woman in her late twenties, who was beautiful and successful and seeing man after man, unable to settle down. When the matchmaker asked her what, in her opinion, is wrong with the young man she had been lately introduced to, the young lady said, "he flaps his arms when talking!" Did he have good qualities, apart from the flapping arms? Oh yes, he was kind and responsible and caring, and she really loved his eyes... the matchmaker suggested she should just ignore his arms and focus on the rest, and within two weeks, they got engaged.