If you aren’t a Mom who is going or has gone through potty training, I won’t blame you for skipping this post. If you are, you probably know exactly how I feel – knowing that all this will be over someday, in the near future, and perhaps sooner than you think; yet sometimes feeling as though you will be changing diapers forever.
Shira is currently 28 months old, and so far, only goes to potty when I chance to offer it at the right moment – which isn’t exactly a smashing success in my book. I know that physically, she must be ready, but I guess that mentally, something just doesn’t “click” – yet.
A couple of days ago, we had a really hot day around here, and I just took off her diaper and let her run around bare-bottomed. I placed the potty in her play area in the living room, and explained to her that whenever she feels the need to go, the potty is right there.
Soon after that, we had the first “miss” on the floor (thankfully, we have tiled floors in all rooms – no carpet). She looked down with curiosity and an expression of mild concern. Nothing to worry about, I encouraged her. Next time, just go in the potty.
The next time she missed the potty, she was even more worried. The third time, she was hysterical, clinging to me and begging me to hold her – even though I did my best to soothe her and didn’t express any anger or frustration whatsoever over her not going in the potty.
All that day, she didn’t go in the potty even once. I spent the entire day mopping up the floor – and being thankful it’s only the floor, and not the chairs or sofa.
Then, we had another few rainy days, it was too cold to continue going bare-bottomed, so we went back to diapers. Still, I think the experiment was not entirely useless, in the way that it evidently raised her awareness of bodily functions – now, every time she feels the need to go, she grabs her diaper, looks up at me, and says she doesn’t want to go on the floor. I then promptly offer the potty, and we have had more “hits” than usual.
Still, it’s obvious that we have a long way to go (a way that might be completed within days or within months). The goal is awareness and independence – she has to know she must go, and must be able to either use potty independently, or call me for aid. As long as it’s only guesswork on my part, we haven’t done much as far as I’m concerned, even if we’re using fewer diapers.