Here is a comment I received recently:
"I don't find changing diapers and washing my countertops meaningful, no matter how much I meditate and wish I did.
There are other aspects of life young women can enjoy, other than child rearing. They can read books, they can discuss politics, they can travel, tney can learn, they can use their artistic talents, or medicinal talents.
Some people are happy staying home and never seeing the world outside their four walls. Others need more space. This blog does not allow for that space and assumes everyone should be the same."
Here is my reply, with some additions:
I could never assume everyone should be the same, because I believe everyone was created unique, with his/her own gifts and possibilities.
Having said this, most of us will marry and have children, those children will need to be cared for, and I do believe it is best for the vast majority of children to be cared for by their mothers. And this, of course, in most cases entails establishing an orderly routine and a peaceful home, with a mother in it.
As a Jew, I learn that everything we do matters, and that thought and intention can make the greatest difference in the simplest acts. Taking care of one's home can and should be meaningful, not because we're such fans of cleaning per se, but because we are making a daily effort to make our homes pleasant, combatting filth, dust, crumbs and spills.
Having said this, washing countertops is in no way in the same league as changing diapers. Changing diapers is part of caring for living, thinking, unique human beings. Countertops don't care if they are spotless clean, but children do care if their diapers are changed with a smile, a song, and a kiss on the tummy.
Being stay-at-home mom does not mean never setting foot outside the house. I think the average office worker is cooped up far more than a stay-at-home mom who gets to hang her laundry in the warm sun, gather eggs from her own chickens, and take her children for long walks every day. Also, certainly, women can and should explore their talents - which in many cases can actually be more easily done by stay-at-home wives and mothers.
I realize that the ideal is not always possible; however, I do believe it is ideal for young children to have a mother at home. Some have to work to survive. Most working women have jobs, not careers aimed at helping them to develop their talents and blossom as persons.