I received so much wonderful response to my Modest Summer post. Thank you, ladies!
Here’s something interesting Lean Not brought up, on the subject of headcoverings:
“As far as modesty, I can see where it makes others look at you as a person instead of at the beauty of your hair, thus taking attention off of yourself and pointing attention to more important things. But in a society where almost NOBODY wears them, is the purpose defeated since it will draw a ton of attention to the lady wearing the head covering? Where I am, it would be seen as a fashion statement.”
Thank you for bringing this up! This is definitely something to think about, and not even specifically about headcoverings. For example, I see that the way I dress attracts many glances because nobody dresses this way where I live. So I suppose you could say that if I wore a pair of jeans and a t-shirt (I’m not talking about anything explicitly immodest), I would attract less attention than I do now in my long skirts. Do I think it would be the right thing to do? As you know, I continue to adhere to what I think is right.
Let’s even take one step away from our appearance. Won’t we be more culturally accepted if we adopt feminist teachings, become career women, compromise our standards of chastity, forget about having a large family… you get the idea. Just insert your own counter-cultural ‘quirk’ here. Sure, it would make many of us more popular. Maybe our lives would be easier. But I think it all boils down to one simple question:
Whose standards do we want to follow?
There are standards of human society, which change every century, decade, year, season or week. And there are God’s standards – everlasting, truthful, faithful. So which should we follow? The choice is ours.
I will leave the headcovering question open, because I just don’t think I have a satisfactory answer at the moment. But whatever we do, whatever our doubts are, our hearts should be turned to God and His word, and not to changing trends and whims of a fallen world. Just think, study and pray about it, and when you think you have the answer, do what’s right and let Him take care of the rest.
Don’t be afraid to make a counter-cultural statement. Sometimes we follow an example, and sometimes we must be the ones who set an example. Of course this shouldn’t be done in an arrogant, holier-than-thou way (“look at me! I’m so righteous!”). We should do what’s right, but we must humble ourselves and do it in a peaceful and pleasant manner (“Her ways are of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace”).