These thoughts were inspired by a post over at Jordin's blog, Paths of Peace.
When I tell people I'm working towards becoming a full-time homemaker, one of the arguments against such a decision is: 'You're going to become frumpy. You will have no reason to dress up and look good, and you will end up losing your sense of dignity!'
Why, though? Why is it that we are motivated to dress nicely for strangers, co-workers, fellow students and even neighbors, but not for the people we love the most – our family? Why is it that at home with our loved ones, we don't mind wearing clothes we wouldn't even think of wearing anywhere else? And who wants to stay at home if being home means being frumpy?
Do I think our husbands, children and other family members should love us just the way we are, no matter what we wear? Of course I do. But the way we dress expresses our attitude. If we dress fancy outside and frumpy at home… well, just think about it. What sort of message are we conveying? Don't the memories we create for our family matter enough for us to dress in a respectable way at home?
I don't want anyone to misunderstand me; I'm far from saying we should wear our best while washing the floors or hanging laundry. I'm talking about basic dignity here. Torn clothes, clothes with stains or missing buttons are unacceptable in my opinion. If an item of clothing can't be fixed or has a stain you can't remove, it shouldn't be worn at all. I also think hair should be brushed, face washed and nails trimmed and clean at all times. These simple things will make us feel better and can change our entire attitude about spending our days at home.