Here's something else Kelly mentioned in her series: being accused of 'sheltering her children too much'. So, let's ask ourselves: is throwing a child into a sinful, rebellious and ungodly environment in any way beneficial for the child's development, education and good sense of judgment? Again, allow me to share my personal experience.
In our school, having a close relationship with your parents and/or siblings was something to be ashamed of, and nobody wanted to admit that. By the time we were in the end of junior high, you'd be embarrassed to admit you've never had a boyfriend. By the end of highschool… yes, that's right! Only 2 girls in my class were virgins, and they were considered 'weirdos'. Some had abortions when they were 13. Some even more than once. The more I think about it, the more heartbreaking this is.
And wait, I didn't even get to the fun part: getting drunk and partying! I remember how once when I was in 7-th grade, a boy and a girl from my class were caught, drunk more than you can imagine, behind the classroom building. They… shared a whole bottle of vodka between the two of them! That's right. 13-year-old children. During school hours. When they were supposed to be in class. This is just incredible, isn't it? By the time I was in highschool, half of the students in my class tried drugs at least once. And even the 'good kids' frequented 'innocent' parties, which consisted of girls in flashy, immodest outfits, wearing too much makeup, mingling with boys, unsupervised, with lots of alcohol; music which today I would consider dangerous; and dancing the type of dances during which boys tried to touch every part of the girls' bodies they could reach. The 'dating' couples hid in shadowy corners for more intimacy, and the ones that 'went steady' locked themselves in the bathroom for hours and… I'll spare us the details!
Some argue and say that this is 'the real world', and therefore children must face it. Yes, sadly, in our culture this is often the prevalent situation. And our children should probably know it is. But here's what I disagree with: I don't think our children should 'face' it in the way of being thrown into an immoral and ungodly environment while their minds and souls are immature. I remember myself at 13. I was an intelligent young person, and even quite sensible for my age. But I don't see how a 13-year-old can be expected to have the judgment of his or her parents, a judgment that can only be developed after growing up, learning and maturing. Should we let children get their minds soaked with sinful and rebellious attitude? Should we let them make every possible mistake, thinking it will help them mature more quickly? I don't think so! If no one protects the hearts, souls and minds of children, if no one safely guides them until they can deal with the world without being immersed in sin, then hey, what are parents for?