Saturday, August 4, 2007

Stressful living - part 2

After finishing my previous post about college, I realized I want to expand a bit on what I briefly mentioned in the last paragraph of my post. I repeat: I am not against education. You'll never hear me say something like that. I'm against what usually comes in one package with college education: young people in an immoral, ungodly, unsafe, extremely stressful environment, accumulating debt; young women, away from the protection of their parents, under a million of dangerous influences, brainwashed with feminism, careerism, Marxism and atheism.

When we try to examine a certain method of education, be it college, professional courses, or any other thing, we should ask ourselves the following question: how well does it prepare us for the role we want to dedicate our lives too (this goes, of course, for men as well as women). If we dream, as young women, about marriage and family, about starting a good life with a good man as our husband and having lots of children, how fitting would it be for us to spend long years in a pushy, overstressed, career-centered course of studies, being told in every way that our dream is inferior, impractical, unworthy, and should be put off for as long as possible?

And even if a girl isn't told this directly, is she being subtly swayed? Is she preparing to become a wife, and how seriously? Do her studies leave time and space to practice homemaking skills and domestic responsibilities, or is it all about 'fun' and escaping her parents' authority? I lived at home during my college years, which I think was great, but I still had very little time left for anything but my studies. Of course, my degree included cooking classes, menu planning, food safety, and of course lots of medicine and nutrition, which are important for a future homemaker.

Some may argue that a girl never really knows for sure she will be a wife and mother until she actually becomes one. Neither do we know how soon it will happen. This is true. We have dreams, but God might have other plans for us as He weaves the beautiful tapestry of our lives. Maybe I dream of getting married young and becoming a mother to many lovely children, but God's plan is that I will struggle with long years of infertility and then become an adoptive parent. Some will never get married. We can't say which is 'better', because we are all unique. But on a large scale, most women will become wives and mothers. Should we go through our years as unmarried daughters unprepared for this important work? That would be impractical and unwise, if I may say so.

And if a woman never marries, are those homemaking skills lost? No, of course not! A single woman can use those abilities in countless ways, to take care of her own family, to extend her fellowship to others, and live a life of truly beautiful femininity.

While reforming the system is a long, hard process which might take many years to start, we can seek creative solutions even today. There are options for getting a degree online (though I must say I would welcome more variety here); or we can just think out of the box and do creative learning. Many of us are autodidactic anyway and learn better on our own.
As I'm unpacking my things now, and putting in place my Spanish notebooks, Finnish grammar books, history books, craft journals and fine classic Russian literature, I realized I owe my good education not to public school (more on this in future posts) and not to college (which gave me some practical skills but no general education), but only to my mother, who cultivated my love for learning and encouraged me to read any good book I could lay my hands on.


USAincognito said...

I can understand how attending a secular university can be disheartening to Christian women. There are a ton of Christian universities out there, though - denominational based and nondenominational based - that have an excellent educational system that is also Christ focused. The university I graduated from is well-known in the Christian world and in the secular world as being a God-focused university that produces mature adults ready for ministry, the workforce, or family life. They even offer courses online now for those who are unable to attend classes at their campus. Here is their website for anyone interested in checking the university out:
I am sorry to hear that your college experience was not always pleasant. Being a Christian woman at a secular university can be very tough as oftentimes you tend to stand out. But hopefully those around you have been able to see why you are different and it has made them to question it and want to find out more.
No matter where God puts us, we can always be a light to the world around us. :)

Mrs. Brigham said...

I share your thoughts about the current education system. Learning is something that ought to take place each and every day, regardless of one being in school or not. I LOVE educating myself about new things each and every day and really do think that broadening one's mind makes them a better person in whatever calling God has given them.

Homemaking skills most certainly can be used whether a woman finds herself single or married. Keeping a clean & efficient home, eating healthful food, and trying out a craft hobby or two do make home and life much more pleasant and are often even therapeutic when it comes time to focus on God and get away from the world outside.

Anonymous said...

I agree with usaincognito in that there are excellent Chrisian universities for further study. Liberty is indeed one of the few truly excellent Christian universities, in my opinion. I'm certain she rec'd a wonderful education! Patrick Henry College is another. However, many (truly, many) so called Christian universities have gone the way of muddying the faith and intent for the students. They've also been increasingly hiring non-Christian professors. While the professors must sign a paper stating they will not feed students their personal beliefs (as they are contrary to Christian beliefs) there is no way their belief system will remain in their own minds and not spill over. If a young adult (or any age adult for that matter) is not fully rooted in their faith, other belief systems can taint and otherwise cause a challenge for that student.

When a student and parents visit a college of interest it's important (absolutely necessary actually) to sit in on junior and senior classes rather than the freshman and sophomore ones. See, with eyes wide open and praying for discernment, what the college is putting out rather than merely taking in. Talk with professors in study programs your student is interested in. Ask the professors about their personal beliefs.

My husband attended a Christian university then graduated from a state university. He saw more partying, immorality and other questionnable behavior in the Christian college than in the state college...and was astounded. This is common, as I've discussed this with many other adults who attended or graduated from Christian colleges.

Our daughter will be taking on-line courses from Calvary Chapel Bible College this year as well as 2 PE classes at the local community college (with a girlfriend so as not to be alone on campus). Next semester she will begin studying for her fitness instructor license through the Nat'l Assoc. of Sports Medicine - online. Her desire is to earn her AA degree in Theology as well as fitness certification...she hopes to marry a youth pastor and teach fitness as a ministry to KAH's and homeschooled children.

El's beau is attending Cornerstone Bible Institute ~ studying to go into youth ministry. ;o)

A couple of her girlfriends are going to Biola and one is going to California Baptist University. I'm concerned for them being away from the guidance and protection of their parents.

Your posts are consistently thought provoking, Anna. Thank you for challenging us as women to dig deeper!

Shelley said...

Reading both your posts on college brought back many memories, some I would like to forget. I had what amounted to a breakdown in my final semester of practical nursing. I was overloaded period. The thing that made me "lose it" was the number of essays we were required to write on "Caring theories". Yes, there are theoretical models of "caring". Why do institutions of "higher" learning have to mess with basic human emotions. We had 10 essays, 500 word min, APA format on caring as viewed by old "important" nurses. These women were mostly old maids who never had families and stayed up late at night peering at nursing texts devising ways to torture nursing students! lol....I remember having no time to think or time to spend with my family, lack of sleep, it was awful. I'm so grateful for my husband and my life now...I wish I had your good sense when I was 22:)...don't let the "world" tell you what's important, you know the truth:)

Anna S said...


What you said, "there is no way their belief system will remain in their own minds and not spill over", is so true! Our Public Health class, which was taught by a feminist professor, was heavily laden with feminism, Marxism and anti-child policy.

I wish your daughter all the best luck in her studies!


I sympathize, and I'm very glad you're happily married now! Thanks for the encouragement!