Ever thought why marriages are failing and divorce rates are skyrocketing? Why there's so much rebellion and so little commitment? Here's what I think is one of the key reasons: our relationships are based on too little duty and way too much 'moods'!
While by no means I mean to undervalue our emotions, just think what we would come to if we only did what we felt like doing. Today I might feel inspired and uplifted and do my work with gusto. I sing while I cook and hang the laundry cheerfully. Tomorrow, I might not be in the mood – and then what? Should I just let the house go?
Some days, we feel like the kindest, most patient human beings. Then the next day, we feel like leashing out on our loved ones. So… should we just 'go with what we feel'? Obviously, not. In the mood or not, we should prioritize and see what we must do – and then just do it, even if we don't feel like it, patiently and preferably without grumbling. We rise above our fleeting little wishes and we do the right thing and give to others – and this is what makes our life meaningful.
You might be asking yourself, 'if I don’t feel like doing something for others, should I still be doing it, even if it frustrates me?' – if you ask me: yes! If it's your duty - absolutely. Why? Because it's giving that builds everything that is important in our lives, and relationships that are based on moods will dwindle and die – they have no firm ground to stand on.
I often hear opinions such as, 'well, if this doesn't make me happy right now, I guess I shouldn't be doing this'. This is fine when we're talking about a trip to the movies, but not when it comes to things that are the foundations of our life. Should we stop praying because we don't feel like it? Should we give up on doing something we know is best for our family, because it doesn't fit what we want to be doing right now?