I know many of the ladies who read this are probably more experienced in the arts of homemaking than I am; I only learned to cook a little over a year ago, and for a long time I couldn't spot dust to save my life. Still, I will share with you a few do's and don'ts that have been tremendously helpful to me as an aspiring homemaker-in-training.
Do make to-do lists and approximate schedules. It will help you stay organized and focused in moments of confusion, when a myriad of things are demanding your attention and you aren't sure what to do next.
Don't get addicted to crossing items off your to-do list. Life isn't a neat little list; sometimes unexpected and urgent issues will arise, someone dear will call you for help, or you'll just want to take a break and do something special with your family. The world won't collapse if your dishes sit in the sink for another two hours while you take a walk and watch the sunset.
Do work hard during the week and give the best of your energy and productivity.
Don't be tempted to think that by working seven days a week, you'll be able to accomplish more. You'll only exhaust yourself and be less productive in the week ahead. God knew what He was doing when He gave us a day of rest! Our soul needs the peace and tranquility of spiritual refreshment.
Do practice hospitality and open the doors of your home – and your heart – to others.
Don't do it at the expense of your health, peace of mind or the time you dedicate to God and your precious family. You'll end up exhausted, overwhelmed and frustrated, and that won't do anyone any good. Carefully evaluate how much you can give without damaging your spiritual life or family time.
Do aim for advancing your creative skills, such as cooking, crafts and decorating.
Don't drive yourself to discontentment by comparing yourself with others. Someone's cakes will always be fancier, and no matter how hard you try, someone out there will have shinier windows. It's not about 'having it all together' - what really matters is the spirit of joy, peace and love in your home.
The list is long, and I'm far from knowing it all! Still, these simple points have been useful to me, and hopefully, in the future I will be able to work it out and find the balance that will enable me to become, God-willing, the woman, daughter, wife, mother and homemaker He wants me to be.