Dear ladies, daughters, mothers, grandmothers and all you devoted homemakers out there - I'm happy to tell you I just finished working on a series called "Dedicated Daughters - Encouragement for the home-focused young woman in an unsupportive environment"; The series will be posted on my blog over the next weeks (There will still be room for other things as well). The purpose of these posts is to encourage and support those young women with passion for family, home, and femininity; women who desire with all their hearts to dedicate their single years to studying the arts of homemaking - but can't hope to receive understanding and support from those who surround them.
Why did I decide to sit down and write "Dedicated Daughters"?
It just so happened that one day, the amount of thoughts, memories, observations, objections and frustrations, coupled with many emails I received from likeminded young ladies, reached an all-time high and could no longer be ignored.
Today, some forty plus years after the onset of modern feminism, we have a generation of young women who got a good strong doze of reality after experiencing its detrimental effects. We have young ladies, who would love nothing better than to do what countless young women did in the past: prepare for a future of wifehood and motherhood; hone their homemaking skills; learn from older women.
Only it so happens that for most of these young, virtuous women, the task isn't as easy as it was for their grandmothers: many homemaking skills are lost, home management itself is underappreciated, the right man is in no hurry to show up and their peers - and often parents as well - apply moderate and not-so-moderate pressure to reap the bounty of feminism: independence and self-fulfillment (read: self-centeredness and irresponsibility) which can only come, it is claimed, from pursuing a college degree and seeking a competitive, high-paying and time-consuming career. And those older women who are supposed to teach and instruct the young ones? Oh, you mean, their feminist mothers. Well, not much hope there.
No one cares that they yearn for peaceful home life and for accomplishing the vision of womanhood; is it any wonder that they are feeling frustrated and even hopeless?
Here are only a few words from the many young ladies who wrote to me (edited to preserve privacy): "I would love to train in the arts of homemaking, but my parents insist that I go away to college for several years"; "I'm newly married but there was no one to teach me how to cook or manage a household. I wake up every day to a messy home and a frustrated, hungry husband. What do I do?"; "I know I'm called to home, but I'm also called to honor my parents, so how am I supposed to balance that?"; "I have read books and articles dedicated to unmarried adult daughters, but they all describe a situation when a protective father is present. It isn't so for me – so what are my options?"
I don't claim to provide the ultimate answers. What I would like to do, however, is share my own experience as someone who in a few years walked the path from die-hard feminist to home-focused daughter, as well as the priceless advice I gleaned from more experienced ladies I had the privilege to know. From college to home organization and earning money from home, I'll try to touch numerous aspects in the life of a young lady who wishes to dedicate herself to home, but can't hope for much support from her family and friends.
Coming soon: "What's a young, unmarried woman to do at home?"