Today, in a world so void of spirituality, of values, of self-sacrifice, we often forget what marriage is about. As I have mentioned before, more and more people come to view marriage as an outdated economical arrangement, purely convenient at best – and oppressive to women at worst. As you understand, a young woman who is currently preparing for marriage herself doesn't find this point of view very uplifting.
So where do I turn for a source of inspiration, consolation, peace, wholeness and encouragement? As always – to God's instruction. Here are two verses I always remember whenever I think about marriage:
"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh." (Genesis 2:24)
"Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth." (Proverbs 5:18)
There's a glimpse of marriage, as God intended it to be: oneness, harmony, love, respect, honor, joy and endurance through hardships and rough times. I'm not saying that marriage doesn't also have a practical, economical side – it is explicitly said a man is supposed to provide for his family, and a woman care for the matters of her household; but this is far, far, far from the very special, incredibly spiritual union marriage is intended to be.
As someone who isn't married yet, perhaps I can't even imagine the degree of closeness, unity and togetherness that exist in a good marriage; perhaps some of you married ladies who read this can provide a better perspective. But I know for sure marriage means more, so much more than mere economical stability and sexual gratification.
When – God willing – time comes for me, too, to set on this new stage of journey in my life, hand in hand with my new husband, I hope I can truly rejoice in my marriage, and build a God-honoring, joyful, warm, love-filled home.
… Writing this was inspired by one of those not-so-kind remarks I sometimes get on my blog, and I want to say a few words about it, something that has been rather heavy on my heart for a couple of weeks now.
When I started blogging, I was ready – even looking forward – to defending what I believe in; those of you who have been regular readers know I patiently answered and even welcomed controversy and objections.
But as the months passed by, I felt a change of heart. No, my convictions didn't change one bit. Yes, I remain a firm believer of everything I stated on this blog. But now I feel as though I would love nothing better but to just live out what I believe in – in peace, joy, contentment and love, not paying the slightest attention to naysayers. In the past weeks, I greatly reduced the amount of time I used to dedicate to answering skeptic questions and objections by email and otherwise; I feel that especially now, in such a busy period of my life, time can be better used in more constructive pursuits. It doesn't mean I will not answer questions anymore – I still greatly enjoy and welcome them. But I will address the more important issues, and specifically those which haven't yet been discussed on this blog.