The time that passed since our wedding has been the happiest in my life so far; marriage is nothing like I imagined in my rosy visions as a single woman, though. It's more wonderful, difficult, challenging and rewarding than anything I could possibly think of when I tried to picture myself married.
Mr. T and I are a normal couple. We have our disagreements; while we believe that God brought us together, and while we noticed many similarities between us from the beginning, the fact remains that we are two adults from completely different backgrounds, with our separate habits, lifestyles, hobbies, approaches to various situations – all of this requires adjustment. When you are single, you only have to put up with yourself (this, too, isn't easy at times!). When you make the decision to share your life with another person, you must work towards understanding each other, while each of you gives in to meet the other's needs. This oneness, the feeling that from now on, you are a team, is probably the most beautiful part of marriage.
A day after we were married, I woke up with the most joyous realization: there will be no more dating! No more introductions; no more anguish in waiting; no more searching. Maybe some of you met your spouse without even planning to, and never even felt the pangs of singleness. But those of you who have been single and looking for a long time will understand me. Not that my time of singleness has been unhappy – but I'm so delighted to start on the road of marriage at the same time.
Every day I wake up by the man who placed a ring on my finger and committed in front of God and men to love, honor and protect me. I feel the priceless freedom of security and of knowing that I can open up to my husband, who is now the only man in the world – and for whom I am the only woman in the world. The richness and depth of love in a God-honoring, committed marriage is something that can never be found elsewhere.
As many of you probably know, my husband and I didn't even hold hands until we were married. When you commit yourself to complete physical purity prior to marriage, the rewards reaped afterwards are incredible. The knowledge that all physical pleasure has been saved for marriage makes even simple things like holding hands or cuddling before bedtime especially meaningful.
Marriage means losing certain freedoms and accepting a range of responsibilities. God loves seeing a happy marriage, because it means that both husband and wife are learning the virtues of selflessness, patience, kindness and humility. I am so thankful for being on this journey.
... On a related note, be sure to check out this post by Terry: "We have reduced the concept of a happy marriage to the definition of a soul mate that is no deeper than what you would find in the average Hollywood movie. We forsake all wisdom, parental guidance, and advice, and marry because we are “in love” and then are shocked when the marriage isn’t all we thought it would be..."