Many homemakers today feel isolated and lonely, not only because most women work outside the home, but also because many of those who stay at home don't find purpose and fulfillment in their work as mothers and wives. Often, the wife and mother being at home is only tolerated as a transitional stage aiming towards something bigger and better.
"What do I do? Oh, not much. I just look after the kids for now"; "I'm waiting for a job opportunity to open up"; "For now I'm a stay-at-home mom, but I hope to continue my degree next year" - such statements devalue the importance of the homemaker and discourage women from seeing wifehood and motherhood as a noble vocation.
Without seeing the possibility and importance of long-term life at home, so much falls by the wayside. Why improve the home, if it is just a transitional point? Why work on long-term projects, why establish routines and family traditions when you know that The Big Wide World - a job, college, etc - is just around the corner? And so women tell: "the six months I stayed at home after my baby was born were the dullest, most boring months in my life"; women at the end of their maternity leave confess that they are bored at home. Their already gear their minds towards something different.
Of course! If you know you will only be home for a few months, you won't bother building a satisfying home life. This is something that takes years, not weeks - the sweet fruit of a good, solid home life ripens slowly, and its rewards are sweet.
I know enough women who currently stay at home, or have stayed at home in the past for more or less extended periods of time, from a few months to a few years. But there aren't nearly enough women who see homemaking as an important and inspiring job, worth dedicating the best and most fruitful years of their lives to; I don't know nearly enough women who delight in living and working in their homes, who love and treasure their home as a safe haven for the entire family, and who see the importance of their secured, continuous presence at home.
And that is why I am so inspired by you ladies - an online community of dedicated homemakers who live rich, fruitful lives at home. Some of you run home businesses, some of you homeschool your children, some of you volunteer in the community; and you live beautiful, simple, full lives, and don't think you might want to leave the next day. You might be scattered all around the world, but I know you are out there, and that is so uplifting. Oh, how much I have grown, how much I have learned from your comments and emails, and from visiting your blogs! How important this is to a young wife like myself.
Through the blog of dear Jewels (which is dedicated almost in its entirety to the treasures, blessings and incredible value of loving, faith-filled, rich life at home) I followed a link describing a book of Susan Schaeffer Macaulay, For the Family's Sake: The Value of Home in Everyone's Life. If you click on the book cover, you can browse the table of contents and read the first pages - very inspiring. I am inclined to order this book. But even in the first few pages, which are available online, you can find many pearls of wisdom. Stop by and be encouraged.