Sunday, March 29, 2015

Not a job; so much more

Less than a week before Pesach, few things can lure me away from cleaning; this article was one of  them. 

Do check it out if you have a few minutes. The author makes some interesting points. There is this, however:

"Being a stay-at-home mother to your own kids is not a “job,” no matter how difficult it is or how hard we work. Period. Getting to do nothing but raise a person you opted to bring into the world is a privilege, and calling it anything else is ignorant and condescending."

I agree; being a stay-at-home mother is not a job. It's so much more; I could write a vast number of paragraphs explaining why, but because time is short, here it is in a nutshell: 

Anyone (who has the proper skills and training, of course) can hold a job. But there is only one person in the whole world who can be a mother to my children, and that is me. G-d had given me these children to raise; not to someone perfect, not to the most competent mother in the world, not to the most accomplished, sweet-tempered, patient mother. He gave them to me. 

Therefore, raising my children is not a job, not a career, but the main and most important project of my lifetime. 

Sunday, March 8, 2015

The great trap

I've been following Kelly Crawford's writings for several years; despite our obvious differences (I'm Jewish; Kelly is Christian), I often find poignant truths in her writings. This article is one such example. Titled "Why Your Children Annoy You and Homemaking is Boring", it brings some unpleasant truths to the table of discussion.

"See, the Internet is very exciting. There are fun Pinterest ideas that at least make me feel crafty. There are articles galore and blogs that help me grow. There are fabulous pictures, funny videos and of course, a whole community on Facebook where we not only get to keep up with everything that’s going on, but we get to project our goings-on onto other people, and for the first time, for some, feel validated, important.
The Internet is addictingly f.u.n.
And this excitement does something terrible –it makes our children, our husbands and our daily work boring, tedious and frustrating.  This excitement is why your children annoy you and homemaking is boring."

In the past, I've miserably failed in this area and had to work very, very hard to pull myself together so as not to stray from what ought to be my number one priority. The Internet is just one venue of distraction, though; the same effect can also be caused by hobbies, personal projects, community activities or relationships that take up too much time and energy which are so precious, and needed so much by our husbands and children. 

[As always, it's a question of how much time we spend on something, and at what cost. Too much of a good thing, you know...]

I remember once, I was reading an article on how to teach and entertain preschoolers, when my dear real-life children came to demand my attention. I mumbled something like, "wait, Mom is reading something important. Come back in a few minutes." Then almost immediately I realized just how ridiculous this sounds. Surely being with my children in real life is more important than reading about being with children. I put the article away and dove head-first into whatever it was that needed my intervention. 

Speaking of, real life calls and I must cut this short again. I look forward to checking again soon, as time allows.